10 Tips for a Healthy Relationship

Written by Precious Alex-Toji

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October 16, 2021

Have you ever wondered how to build healthy relationships? Are you like me, who after watching “The Sun is Also a Star”, wished for a relationship that was both mutual and healthy?

The good thing is, I found the recipe on how to build a healthy relationship. Being in a relationship can be an exciting experience, especially when it’s at its early stage. Your heart skips and you develop goosebumps at the sound of your partner’s voice. The real test comes when the relationship progresses.

As time goes on, you get to discover what you like and dislike about your partner. Conflicts arise and if this is not handled properly, it can build up to an unhealthy relationship. This article seeks to help you avoid that.

These 10 Tips Can Show You How to Build a Healthy Relationship

1. Being Respectful Can Encourage the Growth of a Healthy Relationship

A relationship where both partners have respect for one another is a recipe for building a healthy relationship. Naturally, it is courtesy to be respectful to people. Just because you’re familiar with your partner does not give you the chance to be rude. This is very obvious during arguments.

Arguments are parts of a relationship you can’t avoid. Dear, it comes with the package. Knowing that arguments are bound to happen can help you maintain decency during such a period. You can have an argument without necessarily fighting.

Watch what you say when you’re angry. Avoid cursing and calling each other names when having a fight. Some words cannot be taken back when said.

2. Listening to Each Other Can Help Build a Healthy Relationship

In this era of social media, trends, and news, it is so odd that so much is being said and little is being heard. While it is true that communication strengthens relationships, sometimes all your partner needs are your listening ears. So, be a good listener.

Your partner’s view may be opposite to yours. As tempting as it may feel to object, the logical action to take is to listen. The bright side of this is, you get to know the thoughts of your partner, while also serving as a safe space for them and preventing arguments.

3. Be Ready to Apologize When You’re at Fault

Being apologetic when you do something wrong helps build healthy relationships. Being able to say “sorry” when you’re wrong is a necessary skill for building a healthy relationship. Apologizing when at fault shows you understand that you’re wrong and you care about how your partner feels. It also helps you both sort out the issue as it occurs without letting negative feelings stay long.

While it may not be your intention to hurt your partner, apologizing shows you care about the relationship. Admitting your fault and taking steps to ensure such an issue does not reoccur builds transparency and trust.

4. Setting Boundaries in Your Relationship Can Build a Healthy Relationship

Boundaries are limits to what you can or cannot condone. Respecting each other’s set boundaries can help build a healthy relationship.

Setting boundaries allows you to connect with your partner without having to let go of your standards. Healthy relationships thrive when partners know and respect each other’s boundaries. For example, when it comes to sexual intimacy, setting boundaries can help your partner know what activities you’re comfortable with.

Learn the habit of setting boundaries as it allows you to grow into a relationship at your own pace and standards.

5. Effective Communication Is the Foundation to Building Healthy Relationships

A fundamental part of building a healthy relationship is learning how to effectively communicate with each other.

Good communication is a skill that requires learning and patience. It goes two ways: Effective Communication and Effective Listening. When good communication is established, you inevitably experience a positive emotional connection with your partner.

Here’s how you can communicate effectively:

  • Never assume your partner knows your needs. It is your position to let them know how you feel.
  • Make sure your message is clear, easy to understand, and courteous. Sometimes, the issue is not the message but how it is presented.
  • Pay attention to your partner’s body language. Are they sad, hyperactive, or tired?

Take into consideration your partner’s emotions when communicating. If you’re not conscious of their emotions, you can unconsciously damage the connection between the both of you. Effective communication surely helps build healthy relationships.

6. Creating Time for Yourself Away from Your Partner

As strange as this might sound, you must create space for yourself outside your relationship.

While spending time with the one you love is essential, it is important that you also have time for yourself. Couples who spend time together without having time for themselves outside the relationship tend to “get used” to each other and eventually lose the craving they had from the onset.

If your partner wants to contact you at all times or expects that you account for all your actions outside of the relationship, this can come off as being too controlling or too dependent.

As a lady, have a fun time with your girls. Go out, have some non-alcoholic drinks, chase your goals. As a guy, play video games with your boys and watch that football match.

Being close with your partner is important. However, it is also important that closeness does not affect your life outside of the relationship.

7. Express Admiration and Appreciation for Each Other

We all love to be admired and appreciated. That little “You look gorgeous today” and “Thank you for this gift” always put a smile on our faces.

In a relationship, it is healthy for both partners to show appreciation to each other. When your partner goes out of the way for you, be inclined to express your thanks. Words like “Thank you”, “I’m grateful” and actions such as buying gifts, flowers, and surprises are ways to express appreciation.

According to research, one of the reasons long-term couples split up was that one of the partners no longer showed enough affection and attention as they used to. Do not get too familiar with your partner. When they look dead gorgeous, say it. Let them know what you think of their looks and bodies.

8. Intimacy in a Relationship Can Foster a Healthy Relationship

Intimacy helps build healthy relationships. The term intimacy has come to be associated with sex. While consensual sex may be part of being intimate, it’s not the only way of being intimate. Intimacy is the feeling of closeness or openness towards someone else, not necessarily involving sexuality.

Intimacy can be likened to the bond between a mother and child. At infancy, a child would always want to be near the mother. Simple things like hugs, touches, and even kisses matters to the child. As we grow up, these tendencies do not end with infancy.

As partners in a relationship, you both must get intimate with each other. When in public, hold hands together. Watch a movie together wrapped in a duvet while it rains. Frequently, dish out words of affection.

9. Resolving Conflicts Together Can Strengthen Your Relationship

Every human interaction is bound to have conflicts and this is perfectly okay. Both of you will have differences and mindsets and this can sometimes lead to conflicts. Rather than avoid conflicts, it is better to resolve them as they occur. Avoiding conflicts can lead to bottled-up feelings, stress, distancing, and inevitably break-up. 

Conflicts are good. It strengthens the bond in a relationship because it helps identify the likes and dislikes of both partners. It becomes an issue when it occurs frequently and is left unresolved.

Communication is the best way to resolve conflicts. Remember that effective communication occurs when the message is clear, easy to understand by the receiver.

Talk with your partner to see their perspective of the issue and communicate your perspective too. Take into consideration your emotions and theirs and be patient. Try to reach an agreement that suits both of you.

10. Honesty Between Partners Builds a Healthy Relationship

This cannot be overemphasized enough! No relationship built on lies can survive the test of time.

When you talk to your partner about your day, do not hide details you feel. This would be an issue later on. They should hear it from you than from an outside source.

If something is bothering you, be open to express it with your partner. Sometimes, trying to hide details you feel might be irrelevant. When you do this, you not only hurt your partner but your honesty becomes questioned.

Conclusion

A healthy relationship is such an amazing experience. It, however, requires the effort of both partners involved.

Communication with each other can help build intimacy and connection. In the process of communicating, conflicts will arise.  Resolve the conflict gently without flaring up or cursing; nothing good comes out of these anyways.

More so, create time to spend with each other, volunteer together, read together, and listen to music together. Actions like these build connections between partners.

If you have found your knight in shining armor or your Cinderella with her lost shoes, practice these tips on how to build healthy relationships and watch your relationship become #relationshipgoals.

Make some comments below in the comments section if you find this article helpful. Thank you.

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Bello Abdullahi
Bello Abdullahi
October 16, 2021 8:21 pm

I see. So if I do all these, gbam healthy relationship?

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