by JB Mairubutu | Apr 30, 2021 | Relationships & Weddings
In this article, we will be looking at how to impress a girl on a first date. I will be sharing my experiences, be ready to have an interesting read. How to impress a girl on a first date is a lot of work for some men. It makes them nervous, and some people because of this end up having a bad first date.
This reminds me of my first experience. It was awful. A day before the date day, I couldn’t sleep. My nerves were kicking and guess what it ended up being an awful one. It was a learning curve for and from that experience other dates I had turned out really great. I’d be taking us through 12 ways of impressing that beautiful girl on a first date. Leggo!!
12 Ways to Impress A Woman on A First Date
1. Don’t Be too Nervous
Alright, it is fine for your nerves to come kicking because you’re going to have a date with someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach. You know how it is, the pressure of making a first good impression. It is okay! But don’t let it ruin your date.
Take a breath, tell your inner spirit to be calm. It is just a moment to get to know her. If a woman notices that you’re too nervous it might unsettle her and if you aren’t careful it is gon’ ruin your evening.
Find ways to calm your first date nerves. Be calm, bro.
2. Don’t Arrive Late
Bro, don’t do that. I have a girlfriend I’m head over heels for and our first date? I arrived an hour before the time. Too early? I wanted to make sure everything was in place before her arrival. I had to be there before time and guess what happened, the venue I had planned to use wasn’t available cos of Covid-19. Quickly, I made arrangements for another. This happened because I arrived on time. Imagine if I had arrived late, she would have been out there fuming.
It is best to arrive early than late. If you’re late it could affect the mood of your outing. Take note.
3. Get to Know a Little About Her
Before the date, makes sure you know a little about her. It will help you two have a smooth conversation. Let us call my girlfriend Maimuna. Prior to our first date, I’d know a little about through the daily calls and chats on WhatsApp.
When we met, our conversation was just beautiful. It was as though one was having his favourite meal.
4. Don’t Panic
Ladies might not be interested in you if you panic on your first date. As a matter of fact, it will be embarrassing. When we met with Maimuna, she noticed how confident I was. I welcomed her with a smile full of confidence and I carried myself displaying a good amount of this virtue.
She would always tell me that it was one thing that made her fall for me.
5. Ask Questions About Her
This is very key. A date is supposed to be a medium to get to know each other. You can start by asking questions about her; it could be career, family, school etc. Don’t mop at her.
She would be happy to answer those questions and it gives her a good feeling that you care so much about her.
6. Don’t Be Rude
In as much as you want to get her to talk and create a beautiful atmosphere don’t get too carried with her by making expensive jokes that will come off rude.
It is a big turn off, she might end up leaving you or never pick your calls after that day.
7. Make Jokes
A woman will fall for a man who makes her laugh effortlessly. You needed to come and see Maimuna on our date. She was grinning from one ear to the other. Boy, I cracked her up without even intending to. I tried not to go overboard, I was respectful with my jokes.
This created a bond between us and it is one of my best dates since I ever started dating.
8. Give Her Compliments
Bro, women love men that appreciate the little things about them. Tell her you to look nice, you smell good, this dress is beautiful. Maimuna heard word for my hand dat day o. I threw lots of compliments her way. I could see the joy jumping from her within, it broke into smiles and giggles.
At that stage, knew I was doing a great job. Complimenting her doesn’t make you a weak man, it does the opposite. It is one of the ways to impress a girl on a first date.
9. Pick a Comfortable Place
Your first date might not really be in an expensive place but make sure the place is neat and comfortable. You would converse better in a comfortable environment. I took Maimuna to a restaurant that wasn’t rowdy. I needed a place where we would converse smoothly.
So, don’t take to a crowded place for your first date. Don’t do that.
10. Smell Niçe
Bro, this isn’t up for debate. I’m not asking you to smell good for the lady but for yourself. It will help your confidence big time. Thinking of when to use your favourite perfume? Yes, that’s the day.
Smell nice but try not to use very strong perfumes so you wouldn’t knock people out. Something mild but nice.
11. Look Good
It doesn’t matter the attire you wanna appear in, just look good. What I did when I was meeting her, I chose one of my favourite colours, blue. Oh boy, I look good in blue!
It was the first time we were meeting, I wore my favourite colour and had a great haircut. She liked what she saw. This is how to impress your girl.
Look good. Don’t gamble this at all.
12. Don’t Talk Too Much
It is called a dialogue for a reason. A conversation between dia( two). Do not bore her by doing all the talking. Oga, don’t be tempted to talk too much. Allow her to talk to. Allow her to get to know you. Let her ask questions about you too. Don’t go talk about unnecessary things. Ladies don’t like guys who talk too much only if you’re a parrot.
Conclusion
If you follow these 12 steps on how to impress a girl una first date, you will look for me and dash me money, why? You will have an awesome date.
If you enjoyed this, you should totally check out fail-proof topics to talk about on a first date and 10 things you should never say on a date.
by JB Mairubutu | Apr 30, 2021 | Relationships & Weddings
Whilst wedding preparation is going on, how to plan the honeymoon is usually the number one thing on their minds. After a beautiful wedding event, couples look forward to an awesome honeymoon. There is usually thrills that come with every honeymoon. It creates a bond and it is a way of recuperating from the exhaustion caused by the wedding ceremony. Honeymoons are a must. One thing that brings a strain to the minds of a couple while thinking of a honeymoon is the budget.
So many couples think a memorable honeymoon can only be achieved via big budgets. Really? This is what Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood and all the woods have caused. Lol.
This is why you need to read this article to discover how you can plan a great honeymoon with that small budget. Are you ready? Leggo!
10 Tips for Planning a Honeymoon
1. Start Early
It is often said that a journey of a thousand miles begins with just a step, right? Here, we say the journey to a memorable honeymoon begins by planning early. It is never too early to start your honeymoon plans 8- 6 months to your wedding.
Look at very beautiful places around the country or if you want to go abroad; look through these places, compare prices then you can start working towards it.
E no hard abi?
2. Don’t Plan Alone
This is a warning to men. You know how egoistic men can be sometimes, they want to decide where the honeymoon will be. Please, don’t do this. It might backfire. I know how tempting it can be for choleric romantic folks, “Let me surprise her”. Abeg, don’t do this either.
A honeymoon should be planned by you and your partner. Why? The reason is simple, a honeymoon isn’t a vacation for one person so why should only one person plan it? Doesn’t make sense. It is best, couples to do the planning together. It will make them make great choices and have them looking forward to having a great time. So, plan together!
3. Don’t do Copy & Paste
We were told while growing up to cut our coats or kaftans according to our sizes. Nope. Don’t cut your cut according to your size it will put you in trouble. Cut your cloth according to your material, please. Don’t say my friend or neighbour had his or hers in Canada or Dubai so my honeymoon must be there too. It must carry the same plain and pattern.
Let your honeymoon be tailored according to the budget you and your partner can come up with. Even if you have the money to go abroad, don’t follow a generic pattern, be creative. The two of you should think of a style to have a unique honeymoon.
Don’t you agree?
4. Don’t Depend on the Internet
It is good to surf the internet while planning for a honeymoon for tips or beautiful places but don’t rely solely on the internet.
There might be beautiful places in your locality that might not be on the internet that only friends or people around you know of. While planning for a honeymoon is also good to talk to friends, relatives and colleagues. You will be amazed at the very good recommendations you would get.
I remember my visit to Jos, I googled for some fine places on the internet and of course, I saw the places while I was there but my cousin took me to places that are breathtaking but not on the internet.
Do you see what I’m saying?
5. Don’t Forget to Budget
It is very important while planning for a honeymoon to work towards an appropriate budget or set aside a budget. After doing your research and discovering places you would love to spend time together.
Consider the cost involved; travelling, feeding, accommodation and others.
6. Make Plans that Best Suits YOU.
It will be a waste of time if all you end up doing on a honeymoon is sightseeing and mingling with new people and so on. Don’t get me wrong, having fun, seeing new places, sampling new cultures are all parts of the honeymoon itineraries. You and your partner need to have time for yourselves. It is always important to have time for R &R & R; Rest, romance and relaxation.
Don’t overcrowd your honeymoon. It will make sense if you spend so much time together being alone, you know? The bond between you guys will be inseparable.
7. Make Room for Surprises
Because we mentioned earlier that you shouldn’t plan this alone doesn’t mean you should not sneak in surprises here and there for your partner during the honeymoon. Please, do this! Get her flowers, get her gifts.
Gift him gifts, surprise him and see the wonders it will do. This will fuel the romance between you two, as it is one of the things that help strengthen your relationship.
8. Have Specific Plans
You and your partner must talk at length during the planning to know what you need; this will help you draw up specific plans and it will make your honeymoon enjoyable and not cumbersome.
If you want to travel to a foreign country, find out the languages used for communication if it is a language you don’t know, plan how you would go about it and what is obtainable there and what isn’t.
E go help una.
9. Inform the Hotel of the Choice of Your Special Requests
This is after you have done all the necessary planning and have chosen a place. Let your hotel know that you’re coming for the honeymoon that could help with special packages (some hotels offer honeymoon discounts).
Inform them if you have special requests to enable them to plan.
10. Post Your Plans on Social Media
Someone will say this is an ‘Unafrican’ thing to do. The fear that making it public might bring bad luck. Nah, post your plans on social media people will give recommendations and even suggest how to have your way around the place you have chosen.
Conclusion
Follow these tips and I bet you you’re going to have a memorable honeymoon and don’t forget to pay up for consultation. Lol. Enjoy your honeymoon and don’t forget to share pictures with us. Thank you!
by Fatima Sheikh | Apr 28, 2021 | Personal Growth, Lifestyle
My previous posts are detailed and full of bits of advice, recommendations, and tips on how to
stand out and be comfortable in your skin. While I cannot stress enough the importance of self-confidence, we cannot also deny the existence of low self-esteem. But hopefully, this article should help you on how to overcome low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem can creep up on you unannounced and make you doubt how you look, how you talk, make you question your hours of prepared speech and self-worth. Low self-esteem is a very tricky topic to discuss because it has a lot to do with your psychology and how you measure your worth in respect to what you might define as the normal standard which is directly or indirectly influenced by what society have set as a standard of conduct.
I am not a professional sociologist, but an individual like you working on her self-esteem, so if you feel extremely negative about yourself or your life, I recommend you see a professional in the field.
Tips I Have Researched to Help You Manage Your Low Self-esteem
1. Practicing Positive Affirmation Helps to Overcome Low Self-esteem
We all have that tiny voice that always screams out loud when we are trying something new, and when you are battling low self-esteem, that voice seems to scream louder than ever. This calls for daily positive affirmation. Make it a habit of telling yourself positive words every day. Before starting any new project, focus on your strength and achievements and keep picturing them in your mind while telling yourself you are a winner and you are going to excel in everything you put your mind to.
2. Failures are Parts of Growth
Never beat yourself hard for failing; if you have never failed in life, then you have not started your journey to success. Always accept that failure is a part of life and failing does not mean you are a loser and might never be better, you failing simply means you are human just like everyone else and on a path to achieving greater things.
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy
3. Look Inward to Discover the Cause of Your Low Self-esteem
You cannot overcome low self-esteem if you do not have an honest talk with yourself. Most people battling low self-esteem are victims of emotional abuse from family, loved ones, colleagues, or random strangers. Have a one-on-one conversation with yourself; dissect all the words, names, and attributes you have been associated with and list out your strengths, and compare to see how these negative attributes do not line with who you truly are. It‟s your life so write your scripts.
4. Look at the Bigger Picture
As a perfectionist, I cannot stress how overthinking every situation, conversation or circumstance can ruin so many things for you. Ignore those tiny little words and stop overthinking what never and might not happen and focus on the bigger picture. Find peace and look beyond every situation.
5. To Overcome Low Self-esteem Stop the Comparison
You might wake up at the right side of the bed, excited about the day ahead, and all of a sudden feel low because you ran a thought in your head comparing yourself with friends, family members, or random online strangers you have and might never meet again. Clear your head and mind and focus on the moment. We are beautifully unique in our way.
6. Doing What You Love the Most Helps to Overcome Low Self-esteem
This final tip always works for me. Doing what you love gives you a boost of confidence and excitement which is all you need to feel better about your self-esteem. Discover your talent and hobby, set achievable goals and pursue your dreams, and don‟t look back.
Conclusion
When it comes to topics concerning overcoming low self-esteem, there are never enough tips to recommend to you to help you overcome this temporary weakness. You are not alone on the journey of low self-esteem,
According to a book by Dr. Joe Rubino titled The self-esteem book, 85% of the world’s populations are affected by low self-esteem.
Don’t beat yourself, think positive about yourself, focus on your strengths, work on your weakness and do what you love doing. Furthermore, what are the things you love doing that boost your self-esteem?
by Happiness Hassan | Apr 28, 2021 | Family & Parenting
If your child has never said to you; “I will love to be like you someday”, it’s an obvious sign you’re lagging in your parenting duty. Parents are the first contact of a child. In other words, children are configured to watch and learn from their parents. Perhaps, you’re still thinking about how to be a role model for your child? Relax, this post is for you.
Being a role model is the most powerful form of educating.
John wooden
Hence, utilize your position as a parent in your child’s life. However, before we go into how to be a role model for your child. We should understand who is a role model.
Who is a Role Model?
A role model is someone worthy of imitation by others either in character, career, academic, relationship or financially. Also, one is said to be a role model when positive, commendable traits are evident in that person’s life.
10 Ways to Be a Role Model For Your Child
1. Self-Examination
Hey parents!
You know yourself better than anyone else. I’m sure that deep within you there are certain behavioural traits that you aren’t proud of. If that’s your struggle, it’s time to work on yourself. Start by making a list of all the negative traits you want to get rid of, next, a list of all the positive traits you love to develop. Your level of discipline determines your rate of change. Besides, don’t expect a 24hour instant transformation, because change is a progressive process.
2. Develop an Optimistic Attitude
People tend to repel those with pessimistic discouraging attitudes.
Likewise, your kids can tell when you’re optimistic about life and hoping for the best. This attitude imprints into their heart confidence and trust in you as their parents. They start believing that no matter how things get rough, you would always find a way out of it. Instead of giving in to self-pity, depression, and unhappiness.
3. Lead by Example
How often do you instruct your kids to do the right thing, then as a parent you find yourself doing the opposite? Your nonchalant attitude towards doing the right thing says a lot to your kids. They begin to question the instructions given to them. Kids love to see you take the first step then they follow.
Don’t advise your kids to live on a healthy diet whereas as a parent you eat junk food. They are watching you. Also, not leading by example is one of the biggest Parenting mistakes you should avoid.
4. Avoid a Life of Pretence
Do you want to be your child’s role model? If yes, quit living a fake life and be real. Why do all the good stuff in front of your kids than in their absence reverse is the case?. Certainly, when your kids find out you’re not who they thought you were, you’ve succeeded in tarnishing your reputation before them.
Since they don’t know the real you, why should they imitate you? Also, always tell your kids about your past and things happening around you and within the family. Be open-minded, keep no secrets. Furthermore, as you begin to share your personal experiences with your kids, they also tell you things about themselves.
In addition, learn how to recognize your emotions, which helps you relate effectively with your kids.
5. Be the Best at What You Do
As a parent be the best version of yourself, strive to be the best you can be in all your endeavors. Your kids are watching you. And your excellent performance at work, sport, career, and other fields will speak for you. As your kids learn to know how successful you’re at so many things, they become proud of you and desire to become like you someday.
Always work hard to obtain that promotion, reward, recommendation, and applause. It pays off when others give positive testimonies concerning you in the presence of your kids.
6. Be Your Kid’s Hero
Ensure that your kids can count on you at all times. Learn to be there for your kids, pay attention to their complaints and provide solutions. Don’t abandon your kids because of your quest for possessions, spend quality time with them. Check out how to increase the love bond with your child.
Furthermore, listen to them, consider their opinion, support them, desire the best for your kids and help them grow into the best version of themselves.
7. Discipline Your Kids in Love
In how to be a role model for your child, love is an important factor that should be given much consideration. It’s out of the love you have for your kids that you’re able to make sacrifices to ensure they grow. Indeed, the craving of every parent is to see their child succeed. To achieve this, your endless encouragement is required.
As your kids begin to feel the impact of your encouragement in their life, their response will be gratitude, respect, and honor to you as their parents. Also, when you discipline them for their wrongs let love influence your actions, not anger. Check out the correct way to discipline your child.
8. Maintain a Healthy Relationship
How is your relationship with your spouse and others? Do your interactions with them portray peace, unity, and understanding? The way you relate to other people in the presence of your kids matters.
Hence, be mindful of the way you relate with others.
Consider Ahmed’s story
Ahmad grew up in an unsettled home, every day he watches his parent’s exchange words and oftentimes result in physical violence. Little did they know their behaviors were gaining advanced effect on their son. Ahmad grew to view fighting and quarreling as a normal way of settling disputes when someone offenses you. One day at school, he had a misunderstanding with his fellow student.
Ahmad felt he was right and deserved an apology. The other student felt the same way. But Ahmad chose to have his way through violence. This act got him into lots of trouble. In the counselor’s office, when his parents were called for their child’s actions. It became obvious he had learned such an act of violence from his parents. It dawns on his parents that they had influenced their child in the wrong way and need to make amends before things get out of control. In other words, as a parent, you either influence your child positively or negatively.
9. Teach Your Child Core Values of Life
Regularly sit with your child to advise them. Teach them about acceptable and unacceptable traits. Likewise, the rewards for each trait. Tell them stories about things that had happened in your life and how you overcame them.
This is necessary, it enables them to learn from your mistakes and avoid such.
10. Be committed to Making Your Kids Happy
Your kid’s happiness should bring you Joy. Therefore, discard behaviors that make them sad. Such behaviors include unnecessary yelling, showing less interest in their passion, restricting them, comparing them to their peers, and imposing your will on them.
In contrast, create a conducive atmosphere for your kids to express themselves, go shopping together, visit interesting places, buy them gifts on their birthdays, reward and commend them when they do things right.
Conclusion
Don’t engage in activities that will create hatred between you and your child. This is vital because if the atmosphere becomes hostile how to be a role model for your child becomes difficult and unachievable. Love your kids and desire the best for them. This will convince them that the perfect role model they can have is their parents.
Moreover, as a parent what are some of the ways you have influenced your kids?
by Happiness Hassan | Apr 27, 2021 | Health & Wellness
Breast cancer is an abnormal growth of cells in the mammary gland. Mostly affects the inner lining of the milk duct and the lobules that supply them with milk. However, the signs and symptoms of breast cancer are more pronounced compared to other types of cancer. Breast Cancer is commonly found among women and rare in men.
According to the National breast cancer foundation, there are four types of breast cancer depending on which cell in the breast turns to cancer. Hence, in the post, I will be sharing the major signs and symptoms of breast cancer.
What are Some of the Signs and Symptoms of Breast Cancer?
1. Development of Lump in the Breast
A breast lump is a swell or bumps in the breast usually hard, unevenly shaped, immobile and different from other surroundings of breast tissues.
2. Rashes Around or on the Nipples
This is the outburst of bumpy irritations and spots with a dry surface around one’s nipple.
3. Discharge of Blood from the Breast
Associated with breastfeeding mother’s, whereby traces of blood are seen mixed with breast milk indicating breast cancer.
4. Changes in Breast Shapes and Sizes
To notice this sign and symptom of breast cancer, you must be familiar with the shape and size of your breast to be able to tell when there is a change.
5. Severe Pain in the Breast
When you begin to experience persistent pain in the breast, don’t assume it’s a mere pain. Visit the doctor immediately!
6. Swollen Lymph Nodes in the Neck or Armpit
This is a noticeable sign and symptom of breast cancer. The lymph nodes act as filters that collect and destroy bacteria and viruses. Lymph nodes multiply rapidly when they fight infections in the body such as cancer, causing them to swell.
7. Nipple Becomes Inverted
Of course, women are having naturally inverted nipples. But it becomes a sign of breast cancer when your normal nipple such as small, protruding, flat, bumpy, puffy, and big suddenly become inverted.
Treatment for Breast Cancer
1. Surgery
The surgical method applied in the removal of breast cancer depends on the extent of the tumour. During surgery part of the tumour and nearby tissue is removed.
This is because the complete removal of the tumour results in damage to the breast.
2. Radiation Therapy
Employs high radiation to terminate, shrink and slow the growth of a cancerous cell in the breast by damaging their DNA. Preferable carried out during the early stages of the tumour. This method is done by either external means which involves the use of a machine to send radiation to a specific part affected by cancer whereas the internal method entails the insertion of radioactive substances in the form of seeds, ribbons or capsules in the breast.
3. Chemotherapy
This method uses certain kinds of drugs to terminate the growth and spread of cancerous cells in the breast. These sets of drugs are prescribed based on the type and nature of cancer. Chemotherapy drugs are active agents in damaging the DNA of the cancerous cell. They include temozolomide, cyclophosphamide, cytarabine, melphalan among others.
4. Herbal Treatment
Natural herbal products are employed in combating cancer. They help in stimulating the immune system which in turn fight cancerous cells most especially vegetables and fruits.
This herb includes Turmeric, ginger, garlic, laetrile saffron, oregano, and cayenne pepper. Moreover, nuts and extra virgin oil has been proven to reduce the rate of breast cancer.
What are the Preventive Measures Against Breast Cancer?
1. Avoid Alcohol Intake
Ethanol(Pure alcohol) contains acetaldehyde which causes damage to cells by binding itself to the DNA leading to cell replication incorrectly.
2. Have a Balanced Body Weight
The rapid increase in one body size promotes the growth of cancerous cells in the breast. Therefore, it’s advised you reduce the number of calories consumed and engage more in aerobics activities.
3. Avoid Post-menopausal Hormones
Indeed postmenopausal hormones are useful in preventing diseases associated with the menopause stage. The same can increase the growth of cancer in the breast.
Hence, consult your doctor beforehand.
4. Breast-feeding Significantly Reduces the Risk of Breast Cancer
Breastfeeding is helpful for breastfeeding mothers, including in the reduction of breast cancer risk. In a nutshell, you shouldn’t refuse to breastfeed your child within the infant age.
5. Avoid Birth Control Pills
Research has proven that pills are taken to prevent pregnancy often have an adverse effect on the breast promoting breast cancer.
Conclusion
All the mentioned signs and symptoms of breast cancer must be taken seriously. When signs persist visit the hospital for a proper check-up. Furthermore, don’t engage in self-medication without proper knowledge of the type of breast cancer.
Also, share your thought about breast cancer in the comment section below.
