Things I Learned Too Late in Life

Things I Learned Too Late in Life

Life can be trickish. It’s not always how you want it to be. Things happen – some you are proud of and some you aren’t; some are mistakes on your part while some, you have no control over. In this article, I have come to share with you some of the things I learned late in life. Relax and enjoy your read.

8 Things I have Learned Late in Life

1. Certification Doesn’t Guarantee a Job

Na this one dey vex me pass, aswear.

When this country was actually a country one can proudly call his own, everything seems to be normal. Everything was available at a platter of gold. Nothing was too difficult to accomplish or get as long as you follow the proper channel of achieving it.

Back then, as soon as you are done studying at the University, an automatic job awaits you, and probably a car and a crib. Because of that, my parents thought certification was the ultimate way of securing a job in this country and that there was little or no need to teach me trading or any other skill aside from education.

Nowadays, the reverse is the case. You need luck and/or connections to seek a job. I graduated in the year 2012. Well, we thank God for what the certificate has got us so far, but it’s nothing to write home about because it isn’t commensurate with the efforts I have put in while studying. I then realized that had it been I had a skill earlier other than only education, my life now would’ve never been the same. I realized the best possible way to survive in this country isn’t only by studying, but having a skill.

Don’t just have the skill; be so good at it that you can’t be ignored.

2. I Should Have Married Earlier

Marriage is something one engages in life. It’s a union consisting of a husband, a wife, and their child(ren). I used to have this feeling that I’m still young and I should at least enjoy my life before I take in a responsibility; that my head is not yet ripe to settle down (which I know to be very untrue). I kept on lying to myself in that manner until now that I’m in remorse.

I’m not comparing my life to that of others but I can’t help it when I see my friends and age mates with their beautiful kids, I wish I’m in their shoes. Well, it won’t be for long before I join them.

3. I Never Should Have Shown I Was a Workaholic

I used to work in a private school some years back. Initially, I was employed as an Administrative Officer but eventually, I became the Accountant, Bursar, Store Officer, and the Secretary of the school. Initially, I was complimented a lot. We all know how private schools are. Once you show them you are competent or a workaholic, they will drain the last blood in you. I kept on complaining about the workload and they kept making empty promises. None of my records was 100% okay because of the workload and they are financially buoyant to get people to work on those positions.

The worse is that they stopped showing appreciation. I became so lean as if they were paying me with electric shock. Because of my diligence, I became so available whenever they needed me. Basically, I had no weekends!

God so kind, I got another job so I tendered my resignation. It came to the management as a surprise. The founder of the school – who was the number one in complaining called me and talked to me in a manner he had never before, trying to convince me. He was even saying my future in the school is far better than the job I got. How absurd! That was when I realized I was an asset to the school unknowingly.

Nevertheless, I still left the school. Now and then, when they are behind schedules on certain school activities, they seek my help. From then henceforth, I have become a normal employee anywhere I find myself.

An wuce wurin!

4. Never Believe Anything Your Partner Says, Verify First

Never believing anything your partner tells you until you verify is one of the things i learned late in life. I was dating this beautiful girl back in 2014. We met online. It all started as a friendship. I only see it like that, but she was on the opposite side of the coin. I made it clear to her that I’m not interested in any relationship until I’m ready to settle down. One thing led to another, she changed my intention. We started dating. During the course of dating, I made mention that I will never marry a woman older than I am.

Long story short, we dated for 3 years and even considered forming a marriage union. Four months to the proposed wedding date, we fell apart. Do you know why? I had a feeling she lied about her age to me. I got to know that when I asked her for her certificates so my brother could submit a job proposal for her in his workplace.

She initially agreed but later called and said her dad took it there already. It got me thinking. I know I’m not dumb not to have seen her certificates even once, but surprisingly, something took my mind off it; I guess that four-letter word was responsible.

So I asked my bro to help check the submissions they have. To my guess, hers wasn’t there. Then I began recalling some instances that their dots weren’t connecting. I pressurized her into letting me see her certificates so I could verify, but she adamantly refused and kept on giving me flimsy excuses.

After 2 weeks of grace, I bailed out of the relationship without a word. Since then, even if I see a nose in between a lady’s eyes and mouth, I ask if it’s really a nose. Call me crazy all you want, but once beaten, twice shy.

5. I Wish I Started Content Writing Earlier

Content writing is something entirely new in my life. It is one of the things I learned late in life; this is why.

I could remember during the Covid-19 Pandemic in 2020, my brother, the Founder of this blog asked if I would like to be one of his writers. I didn’t say no but wasn’t really interested. So I just kept it aside. He also asked me a couple of times too, but my attitude towards it was the same; nothing changed.

In July 2021, he asked again if I can be one of his Editors not Writers anymore and I said yes. That was how my content writing journey kick-started. While editing content on the blog, I realized… hey Abu Hafsah, why don’t you give this a trial? And that was it!

The first article to my credit was 9 Things to Know Before You Marry a Hausa Lady which was published on the 15 of August 2021. And guess what? It ranked well on the google search engine.

Now, this is where my regret is. Of recent, I saw an advert on Upwork for a content writer. I decided to apply and I was interviewed that same day. The pay was very good. Unfortunately, they needed someone with 20 articles and above. Only if I had started writing earlier, would I have gotten the offer.

6. Mere Assisting a Lady in Need or Showing Her Care Could Mean to Her You Are Interested

Women are very special beings. They are different from us men and so, react differently to situations. I noticed that when you give most ladies a helping hand when they need you or give your shoulder to them to cry on, they easily mistake it for love.

If you are a woman, you need to understand that that’s not how some of us think. We just saw a woman in need and decided to help, shikenan!

I’m the kind of person who has so much respect for women. Yeah, ask people around me to verify. I believe a lady is a special being that needs to be cared for and not be allowed to do anything stressful like hard labour. Their body system isn’t like ours. Assist them whenever they need you and treat them right. However, there is an exception to this; arrogant women, toxic women, and women who don’t know they are woman.

Because of that soft spot in me for ladies, I have had many cases like this. They were so many that I had to start caring and assisting less. Now, a lady has to be very very much in need before I assist. Though, sometimes, I can’t help but give them what (help) they need. Lolz. It’s already a part of me.

7. I Wish I Had Memorized the Holy Qur’an

This is also one of the things i learned late in life. The Holy Qur’an is a book we Muslims believe in. It was revealed by God to His beloved Prophet (Muhammad PBUH) bit by bit over the course of 23 years. Memorizing all of it has its special reward according to Islamic teachings.

Back when I was very young, I use to have a retentive memory and can assimilate a lot without even trying so hard. I can remember in 1997 when this song “I’ll Be Missing You” was released; one of my brothers wanted to memorize the song and so decided to write it down. It wasn’t easy to get the lyrics of a song because we weren’t exposed to the internet and there are no sophisticated phones either. If you want to get the lyrics, you will have to play the song on a radio, listen carefully, and write it down. It is very tedious as you need to be rewinding over and over again, using a BIC pen if your radio has no rewind button. Kai jama’a, an sha bakar wuya da.

To his greatest surprise, before he could even memorize the song, I already have and I wasn’t even the one writing! In addition, most of the Surahs or Verses in the Holy Qur’an I have memorized were just by mere listening.

I wished that talent in me was harnessed and channelled towards memorizing the Holy Qur’an. Now I want to, seriously want to but the hayaniya of this country won’t let me, and my memory retention ability isn’t as good as it used to be back then.

8. I Wish I Wasn’t a Nigerian, Lols

Last but not the least is this. As much as I love my country and try to be patriotic to it, I’m not happy living in it. With the recent insecurity challenges and the prices of goods skyrocketing, and a couple of other malfunctions, no patriotic Nigerian is.

Nothing one can do in Nigeria without fear; travelling, strolling, farming, spending, praying (in churches and mosques), even sleeping in your house for fear of bandits or kidnappers.

Haba! E too much na.

I know this is something predetermined by the Almighty so, one has no control over it. Amma da a wani kasa aka haifan, ko ina ne, da tuni na ware.

Conclusion

The above-mentioned are some of the things I learned late in life that I wish I knew earlier. I hope you enjoyed having a taste of some parts of my life.

What’s yours?

How To Successfully Pitch Your Business Idea To Investors

How To Successfully Pitch Your Business Idea To Investors

Do you want to make a lasting good impression on your investors right after the first meeting? A lot of entrepreneurs have bright business ideas but fall short when it’s time to make a great business pitch to investors. Being an entrepreneur, you need to know the ins and outs of your business. Of course, having a solid business plan goes without saying, but you also need to intimately know what makes your business valuable and give investors good reasons to fund your business idea.

There are different angles from which to make your pitch, but here, we will focus on the sure-fire ways to get the attention of business investors and turn that dream into reality.

Necessary Steps Needed To Successfully Pitch Your Business Idea to Investors

1. Perefct Your Presentation

You absolutely have to create a presentation for your business and for you to do that, you’ll need a solid pitch deck. A pitch deck also known as a startup deck is a presentation that highlights the overview and structure of your business. It is brief and covers important points such as business plans, the products you sell, the services you render and the funding required.

A pitch deck should be a visual presentation, visual aids always make presentations a lot more fun and they tell more stories.

What is the goal behind a pitch deck? You would think the goal is obviously to raise money to fund your business right away, but it rarely ever works that way. Investors are pragmatic by nature, they only invest after a lot of thought and nitpicking. So what is the goal? The goal is to get you into a second meeting with the investors.

When you create a pitch that is so good it leaves a lasting good impression on them, they will most definitely call you back to hear more of what you have to say.

Don’t know what a pitch deck looks like? Well, there are several formats out there suited for different business ideas, but as I said, we are only discussing sure-fire ways to get you that funding. Check out this pitch deck template that is more likely to make your presentation superb!

2. Keep Practicing

The “practice makes perfect” line never gets old and cannot be overemphasized. It is not enough to know your business idea and make a dazzling visual presentation, you also need a lot of practice.

Investors will ask questions. Now, you may think that because the business idea is yours, you will be able to answer it without any difficulty. While that could be the case, you will be surprised when a question is put forth to you and you begin to stutter. Not a good look, right? This is why you need to practice your public speaking skills.

Practice your speech, the rhythm of your speech, the tone of your speech and also your hand gestures. Nonverbal Communication techniques are very important in winning over audiences.

With enough practice time under your belt, you’ll find out that you’ll be more relaxed when faced with questions in the meeting because both body and mind have been prepared.

3. Be Creative

Business is a form of art. Art needs creativity. You have to be able to capture the attention of your investors, make them feel they have to listen to you.

One way of doing that is by telling a story. Yes, you read that correctly. Begin pitching your business idea with a compelling story. Mind you, you must not get carried away with your own story lest you lose their attention and with it, your business funding.

Find a creative way of combining how you figured out the need for your product in the general public and the solution which led you to arrive at your business idea.

Telling a story doesn’t just capture the mind of your investors, it has a psychological effect on you in that you will begin to relax without you noticing it. It also helps to build your confidence as you speak.

4. Talk About Your Target Customers

The business operates on the invisible wheels of demand and supply. These wheels are in a constant rotation too and as such, you need to be able to determine with certainty who your target customers are.

When talking about your target customers, you have to be realistic with your projections, remember, numbers don’t lie.

Here’s a tip on how to pitch your business idea to your investors when talking about markets; break your target customers into TAM, SAM and SOM

TAM stands for Total Addressable Market. This is the sum total of all the customers in the world with the potential to buy your product.

SAM stands for Serviceable Available Market. This is the portion of the market that is readily available for you to sell your products. Due to some barriers like distribution or inclusion, your product could only be available for consumption to a select portion of the market. For example, a multivitamin pill for children under the age of 10, because of the age barrier, this product is only readily available for consumption by children under the age of 10. Of course, this doesn’t mean that adults are not able to buy it. Adults can buy it, but the consumption of it is done by children under the age of 10.

SOM stands for Service Obtainable Market. This is the portion of the market that you will sell your products to when starting out, in order words, your early projections of customers.

A solid presentation of target customers is synonymous with profit projections, so you will have to take your time here and lay it all out carefully.

5. Work on Your Business Model

You have covered the problem and provided the solution in an entertaining way, you have also talked about your target market. Next is the business model. This happens to the crux of the matter.

When investors invest in a certain venture, they do so expecting profit at some point in time. In order for them to expect profit, the venture in which they’re investing must be lucrative I.e it must be able to provide sustainable income.
In short, investors want to know how you’re going to make money.

Here, you must speak clearly and carefully about the pricing of your products or services rendered. You must also speak enthusiastically about how the demand for your product is high in the market.

When supply meets demand, you get profit!

6. Present Your Marketing Strategy

A lot of investors will be interested in your marketing strategy. How will you reach your consumers? Through which channel will you make your products or services known to the general public?

The business world has been revolutionized with the aid of technology and social media. This creates an easy and fast way of creating awareness for the consumers. In this day and age, nearly everyone is on social media, for those that aren’t, they know of people who are; this is how news travels super fast. You will want the news of the arrival of your product to spread like wildfire and what better way to do that than to take advantage of social media. We are in an era where money is/can be made online.

Now, there are a bunch of services that are put in place to boost sales and connect business owners with the right market. You have to accurately calculate how much all of that will cost when starting up. You have the option of using tech hubs to boost your rating or using ad services on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

7. Talk on Your Financial Projections

To be able to successfully pitch your business idea to your investors and have them on board, you must be able to enlighten them on the potential of your business. No one likes to invest in a venture that is bound to fail.

So double-check your numbers and graphs!

8. Conclude with Your Funding Requirement

After talking about the above points, you can now finally be able to present to the investors what you require in funding.

Clearly state how much you require based on the projections and emphasize that you are capable of turning your investments into profit, nothing makes an investor happier than knowing he/she has made the right investment.

Conclusion

These are the sure-fire points you have to take under consideration when pitching your business ideas to your investors successfully. Master these and build your confidence. You have to remember, you are not only pitching your business ideas to your investors, you are pitching yourself. When investors spot a confident and well-prepared entrepreneur, they automatically see a winner and they cash in their chips.

What are you waiting for? It’s time to go win over some investors and make that dream business a reality!

You should totally check out this step by step guide to writing a business plan.

My Experience in Yankari Game Reserve by Hadiya Tilde

My Experience in Yankari Game Reserve by Hadiya Tilde

Visiting Yankari Game Reserve, inarguably the apple of Bauchi State’s eye, was something I always looked forward to as a child. Being one of the lasts, I only visited the game reserve a few times, but there was always the thirst and hope for more. The long drive with a car full of family, the warm spring, the roaming wilds, it was always beautiful. When I grew up, and the cohesion that usually binds a family together ends with everyone scattering here and there to start their own lives and families, such trips ended too.

Finally, on the 27th of March, 2021, I got a chance to revisit that place that has always held a special place in my heart. It was a school trip. I would like to share my Yankari Game Reserve experience with you.

It was approximately a distance of an hour and a half trip from Bauchi town, a total distance of 110km. We started along the Bauchi-Gombe road for about 20 minutes and then diverted left to the Dindima-Maina Maji Road. We were on that road for 40 minutes and voila!

The Yankari gate was before us. We got off our bus and took pictures before the ‘Yankari Game Reserve’ letters on the muddy-red wall, bought out tickets, and then went back on the bus. We drove a long way through the reserve that harboured all the wild animals roaming there. After another 20 minutes, we made it to the warm spring. There was so much excitement!

I couldn’t get off the car because some monkeys were roaming and my friends said they were going to snatch our bags if we got out. A friend that grew up on the reserve before moving to Bauchi town was not scared at all, so he got down and fed them biscuits that they fisted over. After learning that monkeys are afraid of sticks (I still don’t know if it’s true or a myth), I got down and we made our way to the warm spring.

The Yankari Spring

My experience in Yankari game reserve
A view of the Yankari spring

The spring is such a refreshing green sight, laying there way below, having you take hundreds of steps in hard courtship before you reached its refreshing waters. After taking several stairs before reaching the water, I sat on one of the benches to relieve my motion sickness.

Many of my friends dove right in, swimming and splashing and having the times of their lives. I am a terrible swimmer, I didn’t dare! So, I took up my job as the photographer of the group with my DSLR camera, one of the best cameras for travellers out there, and went around taking pictures of amazing sights and friends.

Several times, we caught some monkeys trying to sneak upon us. They steal phones and bags when you are not too careful.

The Yankari Safari

The Safari is equally as refreshing as one of my Yankari Game Reserve Experience. For the experience, officials will arm you with the reflective jacket, and you get the tour in their carts. The forest has a whopping size of 2,250km square, so do not dream of exploring all of it in a tour of an hour or so.

However, the tour is even more promising than it sounds, full of all rare breeds of wild animals, some that are found in no other place in Nigeria.

The Restaurant

Back in the spring, we got very hungry, but our drivers were nowhere to be found so we couldn’t take our food from the car. I and one other friend were starving, so we went to the restaurant. It was very hard making that walk up all those steps when you are starving. We stopped several times just to rest and take some more steps.

When we got to the restaurant, the food was a bit expensive for our budget, so they gave us a discount and we shared a single plate of fried rice and salad. It was the BEST fried rice I have ever eaten, no exaggerations! We sat at the restaurant for a while, talking about the meal and the whole experience, then we went looking for some drinking water.

Shortly after, we were back in the spring. Our drivers were back and food was brought. We bought some sponge cakes and drinks at Sky Crown Bakery back in Bauchi before coming. I began trying to gather us back in a clique so we could leave. It was the most exasperating experience. When you get a group of four people and try to get some more back from the water, you come back to find the slippery bunch of four you initially gathered gone. I was almost in an anger fit. I finally tried to gather at least enough people for one car, but that too proved to be impossible. So, I sat back and seethed.

After a long while, they were all ready to pack. One of my friends got me a bottle filled with sand and water that still, as I write, holds a very special place in my room. I have a thing for collecting sand from special places I have been to. We packed and left. At the entrance of the spring, as we were leaving, we saw some folks from some neighbouring village jumping off their buses. It was getting dark. They were probably there to party all night. As I watched them run the steps to the spring, my eyes also caught a gang of men sitting just outside the spring entrance, smoking shisha.

For the first time, I realized how much Yankari Game Reserve had grown with us, too. I recalled seeing no kids jumping in glee in the shallow waters. It is now an adult place, a good place to visit with friends in the daylight, a good honeymoon location, a good place for night-crawlers to party. But the spring, in particular, does not seem like a very good family location at the moment.

We all have to choose our markets, and Yankari’s customer base is adult at the moment, and that is good if that is what they are aiming for.

Conclusion

All in all, Yankari Game Reserve still gives one a very refreshing experience. It was good to revisit and revive all those memories from almost fifteen years ago. The greens, oh the greens! Take some time to visit and be reborn.

Kauru LGA, Kaduna State Postal/Zip Codes

Kauru LGA, Kaduna State Postal/Zip Codes

Postal codes or zip codes are a combination of letters and digits used for the purpose of sorting out mail. The codes are recognized globally. Here, we will be providing you with Kauru LGA Zip codes.

When something is sent through a post office, the codes are used to determine the exact location. The codes at the end are for a specific place. Sometimes, they come in form of both alphabets and numbers. Furthermore, the postal codes are used by postal agencies worldwide as well as courier, logistics, and delivery companies to ensure quick and efficient delivery.

In addition, the codes are also important in determining demographic information, census, and economic planning.

What is the Difference Between Postal Codes and Zip Codes?

Many get confused about the terms zip code and postal code. Are they the same thing?

“How do I look for my ZIP code?”

“Is Zip code the same as postal code”

Worry no more, we have all the answers to your burning questions.

Zip Code

Zip code is the coding system used in identifying the location and ensuring the quick delivery of mail or other deliveries. It was introduced in 1963 by the United States Postal Services and is currently used in the United States and the Philippines.

Postal Codes

The postal code is used by all countries in the world, with the exception of the US and the Philippines to facilitate the sorting of mails automatically. Postal Codes on the other hand was introduced in 1959 and is used globally. Postal codes might contain numbers, letters, and sometimes even punctuation marks, depending on the location.

Moreover, each country, state, zone, or district have their own unique postcodes administered by the location’s indigenous Postal Services Agency.

So, the terms Postal codes and Zip codes can however be used interchangeably.

Postal Codes in Nigeria

Nigeria uses the postal code system, as administered by the Nigerian Postal Service (NIPOST).  For the purpose of administering the Zip codes in Nigeria, NIPOST categorized the country into 9 regions. The first 6 digits are determined based on the regions while the last 3 digits are dependant on the local post office in the area.

Without any further ado, here is a compilation of all the Zip codes and postal codes in Kauru Local Government Area of Kaduna State.

Chiwai, 811103

Baduran

Daduru

Damakasuwa

Fadan Chawai

Kamuru

Kidundun

Kiffin

Kizakoro

Mai Zanko

Pari

Riban

Zanbina

Geshere, 811102

Apapa

Binawa

Bital

Fadan IIaibi

Fandan Kono

Gasa

Geshere

Gwandara

Kankawar

Kihogo

Kinono

Kubaru

Kushafa

Kusheka

Kushori

Madauchi

Madauci-Kitimi

Pikal

Rishiwa

Kauru, 811101

Dawaki

Galadimawa

Kauru

Kware

Kwassam

Magajin-Gari

Majidadi

Makami

Wutana

Now that you have seen Kauru LGA Zip codes, you could also check Makarfi Local Government Area Zip/Postal Codes.

How to Handle and Settle Crises in Marriage Amicably

How to Handle and Settle Crises in Marriage Amicably

Marriage is supposed to be a happily ever after union as every couple pictured from the sunset. Unfortunately, they ignore the fact that life is an alternating period of ups and downs. Furthermore, conflict is inevitable in every relationship, especially marriage. Therefore, to avoid walking out of your marriage too soon, you should learn how to handle crisis in marriage. This enables you to see the light at the end of your marriage tunnel when things aren’t going as expected.

Crises in marriage are caused by numerous factors ranging from planning and utilizing family budget, selecting the right school for the kids, invasion of the third party, the individual preference, among others. However, this post will outline the steps on how to handle crises in marriage successfully.

Steps in Settling Crises in Marriage Amicably

Step 1: Identify the Root Cause of the Problem

Before providing solutions, comes clear identification of the root cause of the problem. This step is important because it helps you seek out direct solutions and preventive measures to avoid the recurrence of such crises in the future. Unfortunately, it requires maturity to state the main cause especially when you’re the one at fault. However, you must learn to choose the happiness of your marriage over your selfish pride.

Step 2: To Handle Crises in Marriage, Take Full Responsibility for Your Actions

Irrespective of who is at fault between you and your spouse, there is every need that you take responsibility for your actions. This is because crises occur in marriage when the two parties involved are on two opposite lanes. Hence, everyone thinks they are right. But, for you to learn how to handle a crisis in marriage, you have to be courageous enough to fix the problem instead of running away or transferring blame on your spouse.

Step 3: Engage in a Brief Retreat Period

Approaching your partner immediately after a crisis isn’t a good idea. Similarly, avoiding your partner for a long time isn’t advisable. What then is a retreat period? This is a short period of time in which you stay alone and think through what has happened before taking further decisions. The retreat period is an essential ingredient when learning how to handle crises in marriage.

Its advantages are numerous; it gives you the avenue to recognize and control your emotions – anger, regret, depression, and sadness. It also averts the transfer of negative emotions. Furthermore, it helps you think from an understandable position considering your partner’s views and emotions.

Step 4.  Resolve Within You to Approach Your Spouse

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Hence, whenever there is a crisis at home, be courageous and be the first to seek peace. I understand how this stage might be difficult when you aren’t wrong. But then, a settled dispute is better than getting a divorce which has a grievous impact on the kids and between your family and your partner’s. You must realize that divorce always leads to emotional neglect and defaulted psychological coordination in kids.

In addition, avoid assumptions during a crisis. Instead, resolve within you to approach your partner, asking questions on the things you’re unsure about. This is surely one of the ways to handle crisis in marriage.

Step 5. To Amicably Settle Marriage Crises, Reconstruct Your Manner of Approach

The achievement of peace after a marriage crisis is solely influenced by your manners of approach. Meeting the above four criteria isn’t enough to handle the crises. Instead, you must carefully reconstruct how you approach your spouse. Avoid approaching your partner when they aren’t in a good mood, perhaps, tired, hungry, or angry. 

Furthermore, you could as well speed up the process by creating a conducive atmosphere. For instance, surprise him/her by performing their supposed duty in the home, preparing their favourite dish, or by giving them gifts.

Step 6. Carefully Select Your Words Before Approaching Your Spouse

In addition to your manners, you need to critically select your words. Your word choice will influence the outcome of your quest for peace. Therefore, you must be able to communicate effectively. Most importantly, avoid those words that portray blame and guilt so also insulting and criticizing words. In contrast, go for words that show you really want a settlement and truly value your spouse. This kind of word enhances the love bond between you and your spouse and safeguards your marriage.

Step 7. Have a Heart-to-heart Discussion With Your Spouse

Having met the above-listed criteria, it’s time you sit and discuss what exactly happened with your partner. Afterward, delegate together the best way to avoid such crises in the future. This stage is divided into 4 units.

  • Be Direct

Always go straight to the point without beating around the bush. Being direct involves expressing yourself in the best possible way, so your partner can relate to your feelings.

  • Willing Listen

After you have expressed your point of view, allow your partner to express theirs while you listen. It’s disrespectful to interrupt your partner while they express their emotions.

  • Be Quick to Apologise

It doesn’t matter if you were right or wrong. All that matters is saving your marriage. Therefore, how to handle crisis in marriage requires you to tender apologies to your spouse. Besides, they may have felt hurt by your actions or words during the cause of the crisis.

  • Willing Forgive

Once your partner apologizes without even asking, you should be willing to forgive them and forget. Remember, this is the person you desire to spend your entire life with, so, there isn’t any need for grudges or holding onto past offenses.

Conclusion

In marriage, you certainly need to remain open-minded and willing to forgive even before a crisis arises. If truly you love your spouse, the application of the above steps on how to handle crises in marriage won’t be difficult to inculcate.

Perhaps, you can relate to the above steps. Do share how you were able to handle your marriage crises amicably. Thank you.

You could also read on: You Are Not a Good Parent if You Don’t Avoid These Parenting Mistakes.