Things Never to Say to Woman During an Argument

Things Never to Say to Woman During an Argument

We will all agree that women are special humans. They are of course wired differently from men and this is why they react to things differently. As much as they are beautiful, they are also full of drama. For this reason, do not engage in an argument with a woman. If you must, you have to be careful because there are things to never say to a woman during an argument.  As a man, you have to treat your woman right and refuse to say certain things to her during an argument whether she is at fault or not.

15 Things Never to Say to a Woman During an Argument

1. ‘You are Crazy…

Bro, never calls a woman crazy during an argument. Fight that temptation! Women are very sensitive and we all know how their hormones become extra active during an argument. Things will really go ugly if you call a woman or tell her she is crazy during an argument. The best thing to do is make your point if you must and listen to her’s too. This is for your sanity, man.

2. Don’t Mention Periods…

During an argument, never tell a woman that she is overacting because she is on her period. She will fight you for that. It is insensitive to say a thing like that. Periods and their cramping is something she has no control over then why use it against her during an argument? If you do this be ready for war… a big one.

3. ‘My Ex Does…’

Nobody wants to be compared to an ex, particularly not during an argument. Never tell your woman that your ex will never do this or that! She will fight and resent you with the last drop of her blood.  Statement as this isn’t just sensitive but vile and disrespectful. You made a vow to love her, why use an ex to taunt her?  She fit a break bottle for your head if you make remarks like this during an argument.  If you’re about to say, “My ex” during an argument, quickly change it to, “My head no correct!”

4. Calm Down, Relax!

I laugh in chaos. When a woman is really irked and is having an argument with you, it is safer to let her vent than tell her to relax. You tell her, “Calm down, relax,” she hears, “Shut your mouth. You make little or no sense!” Listen to her make her points and if you don’t have anything important to say, it is best you tactically appease her. 

5. ‘This is Why Your Body is…

Guy, don’t even think it. Make you dead the idea abeg. It isn’t only inhumane to body-shame your woman in an argument but devilish. No matter how vexed you’re, do not body-shame her. It might be just the spur of the moment to you but it will do a lot of damage to her self-confidence. Do not use any of her body defects to insult her during an argument. Simply keep quiet. Well, she might be mad at you for keeping quiet but it is better than opening your mouth ‘waaa’ to spew nonsense.

6. ‘Your Opinion or Suggestion Doesn’t Make Sense…’

When last did anyone break a bottle on your head? No one has ever? Well, if you say this to your woman, you deserve to have a broken skull. Never tell your woman this. There are better ways of playing down suggestions, respectfully. Do it! You won’t die.

7. Don’t Insult Her…

Learn to have a healthy argument without throwing derogatory or profane words at her. It doesn’t make sense. If you do this, you would make your relationship unhealthy.

8. ‘You’re Wasting Money…’

Most responsible women aren’t spendthrifts. It is only normal that they gift themselves things once in a while. Don’t make her feel like she is wasting money because you’re the one giving her money. This will break her and if care isn’t taken, she would resent you and look elsewhere.

9. ‘You’re Too Emotional…’

Don’t say it! Swallow that word. A woman will fight you if you are having an argument and instead of you getting her point, you tell her she is too emotional. Don’t even do it.

10. Man, She is Hot or Sexy…

You really shouldn’t do this. Don’t tell your woman another woman is hot and sexy. You might end up being single.

11. Don’t Embarrass Her…

Don’t yell at her or say anything embarrassing to her when you’re with friends or in public. If you must scold her, do it in private. Don’t say you weren’t warned.

12. ‘Are You Done Talking?’

You must have written your will before saying this to her. I don’t see the reason to say this to her unless you have a death wish. Let her finish talking or making her points. Don’t ever say this to her. It isn’t nice at all.

13. ‘Your family is…’

No, bro. don’t disrespect her family because if she does this to your family, you will have her head on a stick so why do this to her?

14. This Dress Doesn’t Fit You…’

You shouldn’t be too blunt when addressing issues like this. It could shatter her confidence. Learn to be kind. Thank you.

15. I Have a New Co-worker and I Like Her Smile…’

This is statement is the number one way of getting killed. You have a female colleague then fine. Don’t bring her issue to the ears of your girlfriend or wife unless you want trouble.

Conclusion

I am sure you have learned that there are things to never say to a woman during an argument. If you really value your woman, you should always respect her even when it is not convenient for you.

If you find this article helpful, leave a comment on the comments section and tell me what other things not to say to a woman that I missed in the comments section as well. Thank you.

You could also check on the 10 tips for a healthy relationship.

This is How You Find The Right Partner

This is How You Find The Right Partner

One thing we shouldn’t joke with is our mental health and this is why it is important to date right. Dating for all the wrong reasons would bring heartaches and premium tears. So many who have gone down this route have either died or disliked the idea of being in love. It is, therefore, important that we date the right person. This article seeks to help you know how to find the right partner.

10 Ways of Choosing the Right Partner

1. Don’t Rush

We shouldn’t want to date just for fun or to catch the cruise. This isn’t healthy or morally right at all. For this reason, one isn’t supposed to rush into a relationship. I understand that there is an adrenaline rush when we meet someone new and seem to connect and we just wanna dive into a relationship with that person. No! Fight the temptation.

It might not be easy but it is important to observe and use one’s head before dating someone. If you do this, there is a 100 and 1 % chance that you will end up with the right partner.

2. To Find the Right Person, Don’t Let Lust Lead You

The fact that you have chemistry with this person and perhaps, you’re compatible sexually doesn’t make that person the right partner. Don’t allow sexual fantasies or lust to lead you.

If you allow lust to lead you, it is obvious that you will end up with the wrong person.

3. Find Someone You Can Be Free With

One way you would know if someone is right is if you find someone you can be yourself with. Anyone who wants you to pretend or live a fake life isn’t for you. You need to be free around your partner.

You don’t need a partner that always makes you feel bad about yourself. Nah! This is surely one of the ways to find the right partner.

4. To Find the Right Person, Avoid Materialistic People

If you are into materialistic people, this point is not for you. Materialistic people tend to be very entitled. These traits are that of toxic folks. Don’t go after people who are like this. They might ruin you big time. All they care about is buying the latest shoes, bags, shirts, and always looking at competing with others.

Flee from them!

5. Build True Friendship

Looking for how to find the right partner? Build true friendship and be intentional about this. I know a couple who have been married for close to ten years and they are happy. Guess what? They started this way – by building true friendship.

If you ask them what the secret to their happy home is, they will point to this fact. They are very good friends before being lovers.

6. Learn to Love Yourself

For you to find the right partner you can love or be with, you need to love yourself. This is very paramount. It is easier to love someone when you love yourself. Please, learn to love yourself.

7. To Find the Right Partner, Be Intentional About It

Being intentional about finding the right partner will help you put a lot of factors into consideration. For instance, the qualities you want in a person, the person’s interest, the type of family, etc.

Be intentional about these things. This will help you to settle for the right person.

8. Find Someone You Can Communicate Effectively With

This is very vital. The success of a relationship is dependent on communication. I want to share a story with you:

This couple were married, let’s say two months and the wife will cook and expect the husband to come dish for himself. She didn’t see serving him as a big deal. Don’t call her names yet, perhaps, in her home, everyone was expected to go dish food themselves. It happens. Hubby didn’t like this and it kept happening for weeks. It was beginning to affect their marriage until he realized that there was a need to talk to her about it. They did and it was then he realized that she didn’t even see not serving him as a big deal. After then, she changed and the problem was solved.

Do you see how powerful communication can be? If you’re wanna end up with the right person, let it be someone you have good communication with.

9. You Must Be the Right Person Too

Looking for how to find the right partner? Be the right person first. So many people want to date the right partner and on the other hand, they aren’t the right people themselves.

For you to be the right person, you will have to curb those excesses, work on bad habits, and be humane. If you do this, then you’re worthy to look for the right person to be with.

10. Avoid Negative-Minded Folks

You see people that are full-blown pessimists, avoid them. All they do is complain and always look for negatives in situations to talk about. You will be unfair to yourself if you end up with them.

They would drain the positivity out of you and you would end up miserable. As time goes on, they might start making you feel less of yourself.

Conclusion

Going through these points and how to find the right partner wouldn’t be a puzzle to you anymore. I hope you enjoyed your read. If you do, kindly leave a comment in the comments section. Thank you.

Always visit this blog for engaging reads. Ciao!!

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Ladies Check Out These 10 Signs to Know If He Loves You

Ladies Check Out These 10 Signs to Know If He Loves You

There is nothing as heart shredding for a lady to be with a guy who isn’t serious about you. This isn’t healthy for anyone irrespective of gender. It hurts more than a cut from a knife upon discovery. I am sure most of us have had this experience. This is why it is risky too as we would say catch cruise with the matter that concerns the heart. As a lady, it is important to ensure that you’re dating who is dating you. Do not date by assumptions. It will end in premium tears. We will be looking at signs that the brother you’re with is serious with you and not just having fun at your expense.

1. He Makes Plans with You

When a brother does this, it is a clear indication that you are in his books. Every responsible man in a relationship makes plans with his girlfriend in mind. Whatever he does, he does for the two of you. You wouldn’t be shocked to discover that he has done things without involving. If this happens, then Oga no get you for mind.

2. He Makes Efforts to See You

He can’t be in love with you and not want to see you. It isn’t even possible. Forget hard or tough guy, any man that is serious about you would always make efforts to see you. Even if you’re in Maiduguri and he is in Abuja or so, he would take time to have you come over or come to see you. A man can always go any length to see you if he is serious about you. If he makes efforts to see you then my sister, you’re in a serious relationship.

3. Always Want to Call or Communicate With You

If Malam calls you or always wants to reach out to you then he is so serious about you. If you’re the only one calling and he gives you flimsy excuses for not calling or missing your calls, my dear, you’re dating yourself. When he is serious about you, he would want to give you a breakdown of his day and share his schedule for the day with you. Gerrit?

4. He Must Show Signs of Jealousy

Any man who is in love with you must be jealous particularly when he notices that another guy is getting close to you. If the guy you’re with doesn’t show any iota of jealousy, then forget it, he isn’t serious about you. No man wants his treasure to be taken away not by another man. Well, I’m not in support of obsessive men that might hurt you. Nope! The point is any man who is serious about must show signs of jealousy.

5. He Apologizes When He is Wrong

Any man who is in love with you and sees you as a matter would apologize to you when he is wrong or when he wants peace to reign. If he is acting all tough and looks for a way of blackmailing you instead of apologizing to you, just take your tenth elsewhere and pitch this land isn’t yours. Gracias!

6. He Wants to Learn About You

When you’re dating someone you have to learn about the person by asking questions because humans evolve daily. We drop and pick up new habits on a daily basis. If he is serious about you, he would want to learn more about you either by asking questions or observing you.

7. Have You Met His Family Yet?

This question is very important. The minute he literally stops using the gate with you, that is when it is obvious that you’re in a serious relationship. Please, don’t go pressurizing someone you just started dating to meet his parents. That is a trait of a desperate being and he will run. If he is serious about you, he will certainly take you to his family if you guys have been together for a while.

8. You Will Have a Say Too

It is only one who isn’t serious about you that wouldn’t give a cent to how you feel and allow you have a say in the relationship too. Most guys who aren’t serious about you will want to be the ones making decisions for both of you; whatever you say or think wouldn’t matter. This is surely one of the signs that he is serious about you.

9. He Wants the Best for You

Any man who is in love with you is aware that if you achieve greatness, it rubs off on him so he would want to be supportive and ensure that you get the best in this life. If he is serious about you, then brother would want the best for you. But if the case is different, then you’re being played.

10. When He Asks You Out

This should have been number one. Anyone serious about you will do the needful by asking you and not just flirting with you. If all he does is flirt with you and refuses to ask you out, then you should move on with your life. He isn’t serious about you.

Conclusion

You see these signs that he is serious about you we have given? Abide by them and save yourself from wetting your pillows with tears at night. Thank you for your time.

If you find this article interesting, kindly leave a comment in the comments section below. Gracias!

You could also check on: With These 9 Signs, You Will Know If You’ve Found Your Soulmate.

How to Impress a Girl on a First Date

How to Impress a Girl on a First Date

In this article, we will be looking at how to impress a girl on a first date. I will be sharing my experiences, be ready to have an interesting read. How to impress a girl on a first date is a lot of work for some men. It makes them nervous, and some people because of this end up having a bad first date.

This reminds me of my first experience. It was awful. A day before the date day, I couldn’t sleep. My nerves were kicking and guess what it ended up being an awful one. It was a learning curve for and from that experience other dates I had turned out really great. I’d be taking us through 12 ways of impressing that beautiful girl on a first date. Leggo!!

12 Ways to Impress A Woman on A First Date

1. Don’t Be too Nervous

Alright, it is fine for your nerves to come kicking because you’re going to have a date with someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach. You know how it is, the pressure of making a first good impression. It is okay! But don’t let it ruin your date.

Take a breath, tell your inner spirit to be calm. It is just a moment to get to know her. If a woman notices that you’re too nervous it might unsettle her and if you aren’t careful it is gon’ ruin your evening.

Find ways to calm your first date nerves. Be calm, bro.

2. Don’t Arrive Late

Bro, don’t do that. I have a girlfriend I’m head over heels for and our first date? I arrived an hour before the time. Too early? I wanted to make sure everything was in place before her arrival. I had to be there before time and guess what happened, the venue I had planned to use wasn’t available cos of Covid-19. Quickly, I made arrangements for another. This happened because I arrived on time. Imagine if I had arrived late, she would have been out there fuming.

It is best to arrive early than late. If you’re late it could affect the mood of your outing. Take note.

3. Get to Know a Little About Her

Before the date, makes sure you know a little about her. It will help you two have a smooth conversation. Let us call my girlfriend Maimuna. Prior to our first date, I’d know a little about through the daily calls and chats on WhatsApp.

When we met, our conversation was just beautiful. It was as though one was having his favourite meal.

4. Don’t Panic

Ladies might not be interested in you if you panic on your first date. As a matter of fact, it will be embarrassing. When we met with Maimuna, she noticed how confident I was. I welcomed her with a smile full of confidence and I carried myself displaying a good amount of this virtue.

She would always tell me that it was one thing that made her fall for me.

5. Ask Questions About Her

This is very key. A date is supposed to be a medium to get to know each other. You can start by asking questions about her; it could be career, family, school etc. Don’t mop at her.

She would be happy to answer those questions and it gives her a good feeling that you care so much about her.

6. Don’t Be Rude

In as much as you want to get her to talk and create a beautiful atmosphere don’t get too carried with her by making expensive jokes that will come off rude.

It is a big turn off, she might end up leaving you or never pick your calls after that day.

7. Make Jokes

A woman will fall for a man who makes her laugh effortlessly. You needed to come and see Maimuna on our date. She was grinning from one ear to the other. Boy, I cracked her up without even intending to. I tried not to go overboard, I was respectful with my jokes.

This created a bond between us and it is one of my best dates since I ever started dating.

8. Give Her Compliments

Bro, women love men that appreciate the little things about them. Tell her you to look nice, you smell good, this dress is beautiful. Maimuna heard word for my hand dat day o. I threw lots of compliments her way. I could see the joy jumping from her within, it broke into smiles and giggles.

At that stage, knew I was doing a great job. Complimenting her doesn’t make you a weak man, it does the opposite. It is one of the ways to impress a girl on a first date.

9. Pick a Comfortable Place

Your first date might not really be in an expensive place but make sure the place is neat and comfortable. You would converse better in a comfortable environment. I took Maimuna to a restaurant that wasn’t rowdy. I needed a place where we would converse smoothly.

So, don’t take to a crowded place for your first date. Don’t do that.

10. Smell Niçe

Bro, this isn’t up for debate. I’m not asking you to smell good for the lady but for yourself. It will help your confidence big time. Thinking of when to use your favourite perfume? Yes, that’s the day.

Smell nice but try not to use very strong perfumes so you wouldn’t knock people out. Something mild but nice.

11. Look Good

It doesn’t matter the attire you wanna appear in, just look good. What I did when I was meeting her, I chose one of my favourite colours, blue. Oh boy, I look good in blue!

It was the first time we were meeting, I wore my favourite colour and had a great haircut. She liked what she saw. This is how to impress your girl.

Look good. Don’t gamble this at all.

12. Don’t Talk Too Much

It is called a dialogue for a reason. A conversation between dia( two). Do not bore her by doing all the talking. Oga, don’t be tempted to talk too much. Allow her to talk to. Allow her to get to know you. Let her ask questions about you too. Don’t go talk about unnecessary things. Ladies don’t like guys who talk too much only if you’re a parrot.

Conclusion

If you follow these 12 steps on how to impress a girl una first date, you will look for me and dash me money, why? You will have an awesome date.

If you enjoyed this, you should totally check out fail-proof topics to talk about on a first date and 10 things you should never say on a date.

10 Tips That Will Be Valuable to Couples Planning a Honeymoon

10 Tips That Will Be Valuable to Couples Planning a Honeymoon

Whilst wedding preparation is going on, how to plan the honeymoon is usually the number one thing on their minds. After a beautiful wedding event, couples look forward to an awesome honeymoon. There is usually thrills that come with every honeymoon. It creates a bond and it is a way of recuperating from the exhaustion caused by the wedding ceremony. Honeymoons are a must. One thing that brings a strain to the minds of a couple while thinking of a honeymoon is the budget.

So many couples think a memorable honeymoon can only be achieved via big budgets. Really? This is what Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood and all the woods have caused. Lol.

This is why you need to read this article to discover how you can plan a great honeymoon with that small budget. Are you ready? Leggo!

10 Tips for Planning a Honeymoon

1. Start Early

It is often said that a journey of a thousand miles begins with just a step, right? Here, we say the journey to a memorable honeymoon begins by planning early. It is never too early to start your honeymoon plans 8- 6 months to your wedding.

Look at very beautiful places around the country or if you want to go abroad; look through these places, compare prices then you can start working towards it.

E no hard abi?

2. Don’t Plan Alone

This is a warning to men. You know how egoistic men can be sometimes, they want to decide where the honeymoon will be. Please, don’t do this. It might backfire. I know how tempting it can be for choleric romantic folks, “Let me surprise her”. Abeg, don’t do this either.

A honeymoon should be planned by you and your partner. Why? The reason is simple, a honeymoon isn’t a vacation for one person so why should only one person plan it? Doesn’t make sense. It is best, couples to do the planning together. It will make them make great choices and have them looking forward to having a great time. So, plan together!

3. Don’t do Copy & Paste

We were told while growing up to cut our coats or kaftans according to our sizes. Nope. Don’t cut your cut according to your size it will put you in trouble. Cut your cloth according to your material, please. Don’t say my friend or neighbour had his or hers in Canada or Dubai so my honeymoon must be there too. It must carry the same plain and pattern.

Let your honeymoon be tailored according to the budget you and your partner can come up with. Even if you have the money to go abroad, don’t follow a generic pattern, be creative. The two of you should think of a style to have a unique honeymoon.

Don’t you agree?

4. Don’t Depend on the Internet

It is good to surf the internet while planning for a honeymoon for tips or beautiful places but don’t rely solely on the internet.

There might be beautiful places in your locality that might not be on the internet that only friends or people around you know of. While planning for a honeymoon is also good to talk to friends, relatives and colleagues. You will be amazed at the very good recommendations you would get.

I remember my visit to Jos, I googled for some fine places on the internet and of course, I saw the places while I was there but my cousin took me to places that are breathtaking but not on the internet.

Do you see what I’m saying?

5. Don’t Forget to Budget

It is very important while planning for a honeymoon to work towards an appropriate budget or set aside a budget. After doing your research and discovering places you would love to spend time together.

Consider the cost involved; travelling, feeding, accommodation and others.

6. Make Plans that Best Suits YOU.

It will be a waste of time if all you end up doing on a honeymoon is sightseeing and mingling with new people and so on. Don’t get me wrong, having fun, seeing new places, sampling new cultures are all parts of the honeymoon itineraries. You and your partner need to have time for yourselves. It is always important to have time for R &R & R; Rest, romance and relaxation.

Don’t overcrowd your honeymoon. It will make sense if you spend so much time together being alone, you know? The bond between you guys will be inseparable.

7. Make Room for Surprises

Because we mentioned earlier that you shouldn’t plan this alone doesn’t mean you should not sneak in surprises here and there for your partner during the honeymoon. Please, do this! Get her flowers, get her gifts.

Gift him gifts, surprise him and see the wonders it will do. This will fuel the romance between you two, as it is one of the things that help strengthen your relationship.

8. Have Specific Plans

You and your partner must talk at length during the planning to know what you need; this will help you draw up specific plans and it will make your honeymoon enjoyable and not cumbersome.

If you want to travel to a foreign country, find out the languages used for communication if it is a language you don’t know, plan how you would go about it and what is obtainable there and what isn’t.

E go help una.

9. Inform the Hotel of the Choice of Your Special Requests

This is after you have done all the necessary planning and have chosen a place. Let your hotel know that you’re coming for the honeymoon that could help with special packages (some hotels offer honeymoon discounts).

Inform them if you have special requests to enable them to plan.

10. Post Your Plans on Social Media

Someone will say this is an ‘Unafrican’ thing to do. The fear that making it public might bring bad luck. Nah, post your plans on social media people will give recommendations and even suggest how to have your way around the place you have chosen.

Conclusion

Follow these tips and I bet you you’re going to have a memorable honeymoon and don’t forget to pay up for consultation. Lol. Enjoy your honeymoon and don’t forget to share pictures with us. Thank you!