There are various ways how to get people to like you, especially if you are not the outspoken or people-person type.
The truth is, that people are naturally drawn to others with likable characters or characters they wish to emulate.
Fun game, make a list of your friends and compare it to the list of traits I am about to show you. I bet you’d find one or more of these traits in them.
Let’s dive right in and find out 10 ways how to get people to like you.
10 Ways to Get People to Like You
1. Grow a Good Sense of Humour
I am deliberating putting this at the top of the list.
One tip on how to get people to like you is to have a good sense of humour. Now, I’m not saying you have to be a comedian or a circus clown to be likable. No!
It is in spotting the fun about a statement or an action that makes it funny. Be cool enough to spot the joke in something and laugh. Laughter is contagious.
You can be the reason people laugh because of a simple wordplay or trick. The goal is to make people find amusement by being with you.
A good laugh brightens up people’s moods. Life’s hard. Don’t be a source of boredom.
Pro tip- One of the traits a girl likes in a man is his sense of humor.
2. Be a Valuable Person
A person who has value to offer would generally be in everyone’s good books.
The big question here is, what value do you offer?
I had a tete-a-tete with a group of friends discussing what value means to them and someone gave an example. He said,
“If you want to cut your hair, you go to the barber. If you want to fix your car, you go to the mechanic. Everyone has a unique value they offer that is not necessarily tied to money”. And I felt that.
You could be a good listener or a very knowledgeable person and this could be the reason people want to be around you.
Find what value you have and cultivate it.
3. Be a Good Listener
Another tip on how to get people to like you is to be someone who listens.
I know we all love people who can spark up a room with their presence. There never seems to be a boring moment with them. Sometimes, though, all we need is someone who can sit and listen.
This is pretty true when you need someone to talk to, someone who would listen when you speak.
To be a good listener, you need to pay attention to who is talking, make facial expressions to show you are listening, and ask questions. These are simple traits you can build over time.
4. Compliment People
I believe that it’s just courtesy to see someone drip hard and compliment them, even if you don’t know them.
Someone once referred me to a gig all because I complimented their handwriting.
Complimenting people doesn’t just have to be about appearance. You can compliment them based on a noticeable feature you like about them.
“Hello, that was a nice speech you gave there. I totally love it”. Simple and short. And you are on your way to making a good relationship.
5. Keep a Smile on Your Face
” Have you seen the most beautiful of faces? It holds a smile in it” – Anonymous
If you are familiar with the Nigerian Twitter space, you’d know about an influencer called Onion Cider. Her face card never declines because she keeps a smiling face.
And that is one thing that endears people to her.
A smiling face is contagious, even if you are having a bad day. Keeping a smile on your face makes it easy for people to approach you.
6. Spend Time With People
A good way to get people to like you is by spending time with them. When you read this line, which of your friends came to your mind?
When you spend time with people, they get to see characters they like within you and vice versa. It also helps you build memories with them.
And we all love memories. It’s the reason why you take pictures, look back at them, and smile.
7. Be a Person of Positive Emotions
Another tip on how to get people to like you is to display positive emotions that people can relate to. If you can learn to see the good side of things, people would naturally want to be with you.
To constantly be positive, you need to learn how to control your emotions. You cannot always be happy or have a smile on your face.
But it is what you do when your emotions are tested that matters most!
I had finished writing an exam and the last question was after my life. After the papers, my circle gathered and it turned out, the last question was actually after all of our lives. In fact, it turned out, the last question was after the life of the whole class.
For the first time in my life, I feared carryover. I would have gone home gloomy if not for my circle. On the day when I couldn’t be the glue of the group, they all made me see the positive side.
As I write this, I am grinning because I am glad for my circle.
8. Have an Open Mind to Learn
Accept it, you do not know everything. It was Socrates that said, “I am the wisest man on earth because I know nothing”.
Keeping an open mind helps you learn new things daily. You do not act like you know everything, even if you do. And you do not let your thoughts stop you from seeing the perspective of others.
Be open to learning from anyone, even little children. This is why conversations that end up with both parties leaving bitter do not sit right with me.
Being able to learn from others is a trait that makes people always want to be around you.
9. Show People That You Truly Care
Think of it. Would you keep being friends with someone who has constantly shown they do not care about you? I doubt it.
Showing people you genuinely care about them makes them like you. A genuine show of care can be as little as checking up on them to know how they are doing.
Sometimes, it’s the little things that matter.
10. Talk to Them Often
I like my personal space a lot! I can spend the whole day indoors and not talk to anybody, online or offline. Just me, my laptop, and my phone. I learned the hard way, that is not the right way to live.
For people to even know you, you have to interact with them. And how the conversation goes would determine if they like you or not.
Keep in contact with your friends, and family often. Have a conversation with your professional network. These actions are pretty simple in this age of social media.
It is easy to be in everyone’s good book. If you practice these 10 tips on how to get people to like you, you are one step close to being a people person.
I’d also recommend Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to win friends and influence people”. I got most of my tips there.
Do you have any tips you’d like to work on or add? Drop your opinions in the comment section. I’d definitely be reading through.
How do I get people to respect you?
Setting boundaries, expressing confident body language, and standing up for your beliefs are some ways to get respect from people.
How do I get someone to like me over a text?
Some of the ways to get someone like you over a text includes complimenting them, playfully teasing them, and keeping your text simple, casual, and consistent.
How do I get someone to like me back?
If you like someone and you want them to like you back, you have to constantly be in contact with them, spend time with them, find out what they like, and get it for them.
How do I get people to talk to me?
To get people to talk to you, you have to keep an approachable personality and smile, and learn to keep a conversation going.