12 Signs Someone is Definitely Flirting with You

12 Signs Someone is Definitely Flirting with You

There are subtle signs on how to know when someone is flirting with you, even if they do not want to show it and try so hard to hide it. Most of these signs can be noticed through their body language. But some like these women’s body language are mostly misread.

You’ve probably been there before. When you think they are flirting and it’s all just normal friends’ behavior. And then you shoot your shot that goes right down the drain.

Or when you are being given the signs but you can’t tell if they are flirting or not because you don’t seem to know when someone is flirting with you.

Oops! I have been there, so, trust me when I say I can relate.

Here are 12 signs on how to know when someone is flirting with you.

1. They Keep Making Eye Contact

Continuous eye contact is a sign on how to know when someone is flirting with you. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, they say.

When you like something, you’d automatically admire it. The same thing goes for someone who is flirting.

Now, this doesn’t mean everyone who stares at you is trying to flirt with you. No! Someone who is flirting with you will stare with a smile.

And there’s always something about that smile that leaves you thinking. And if you’re into that person, your heart would do gbim gbim.

Don’t ask me how I know.

2. They Constantly Remind You They are Single

I mean, if I am trying to have something with you, I’d have to let you know I am available.

That the coast is clear. That you shouldn’t be deceived by my fine face.

If someone keeps talking about how single they are, that’s a pretty good sign on how to know when someone is flirting with you.

I mean, think about it. How would you let someone you are interested in know that there is no one in your life, and that you sleep alone every night with no “good morning (inserts love emoji)” text to wake up to?

3. They Behave Different Around You

One time, I was with my friends in class and you know, normal boys’ argument. We were banting on Barcelona’s loss of form at the top of our voice when one of our coursemates walked in. A girl!

Lo and behold, Umar that was blowing pidgin at the top of his lungs quickly switched to one of the most advanced use of English I have ever seen in two seconds. All because Chu walked in.

When you notice a person’s behavior changes around you, when they make you feel special around them, that’s a sign they are flirting with you.

The easiest way to know is, to notice how they act around others and compare it with how they behave around you.

4. They Always Find an Excuse to Talk to You

Someone who is trying to flirt with you would always want to talk to you, every time there’s an opportunity to.

And each opportunity is a means to have a conversation with you!

“Hi, Fatima, are you by any chance going to the market today. I could walk you through” Ah! Brother Fatai, inside Keke, you still want to escort Fatima to the market.

It is okay if people find you easy to talk to. But when someone keeps coming to you for something they can easily get elsewhere or do not really need, that should send signals to you.

5. They Act Clingy Around You

I mean, aside from eye contact, this sign right here is a very obvious one.

A good sign on how to know when someone is flirting with you is how touchy they get around you. Are they constantly trying to hold your hands?

Or putting hands over your shoulders?

Or always reaching out for hugs?

Or trying to get your legs touching each other when you sit?

These subtle signs are inevitable when someone’s flirting with you.

A warm handshake or hug from your friends would mean no harm. However, a handshake that lingers for too long…

6. Their Body Language

People are very good at reading body language until it’s the person that likes them and then they turn blind.

Aunty, I don’t like to sit at the back, it’s because of you o!

Pay attention to the body language of the person you think is flirting with you. When they sit, are they constantly tilting towards you?

Is their arm constantly moving towards you, trying to catch your attention?

The goal of every flirt is to catch your attention and though, they may try to hide it, their body language always gives them away.

7. They Casually Compliment You

Ah! This right here is the ace card of every flirt. In fact, there are some compliments you’d casually throw around that would come off as you flirting.

The good thing about compliments is they help you “stir the waters”. In other words, compliments are a great way to build conversations.

I mean, if I am trying to get your attention, I’d start with a compliment preferably one that has nothing to do with appearance.

“Not to come off as corny, I hope I’d fit you as this dress looks on you”.

8. They would want to be The First to React to Your Social Posts

Ever heard of digital flirting? It occurs when someone flirts with you over the internet. And yes, it is a predominant feature of the 21st century.

In other words, distance does not matter when it comes to being a flirt.

A person who is flirting with you would always want to be the first to like or comment on your social media posts.

I remember when I just joined Twitter and turned on post notifications for her. So anytime she posts, I’d get notified immediately. Those were pretty dark times.

It is a good thing I forgot the password to that account.

Someone reacting to your post is a friendly gesture. Someone bomb reacting to all of your posts is definitely trying to get your attention.

9. They Keep Showering You with a Lot of Attention

The reason a person will flirt with you is for your attention. Naturally, to get your attention, they’d need to give you theirs.

Do you have anyone, among your friends who seem to give you more attention than normal?

Someone flirting with you would give a lot of attention. Not even a notification from their phone or an event happening across the room can beat that attention.

They’d want to focus on you and you alone!

10. They Let You Notice Them Staring at You

A noticeable sign of how to know when someone is flirting with you is how frequently you catch them looking at you because they want you to see that.

There’s this spider-tingle you get when someone has been looking at you for a while. And when you do turn around to see who, boom! They have your attention.

And a person who is flirting with you would realize you’ve caught them and instead of shying away, a cute smile would well upon their face.

11. They Try to Know More About You

Imagine you are at a friend’s wedding and just opposite your table, you’ve noticed this guy throwing quick glances at you.

When you excuse yourself to get a drink, he gets up to grab a drink too and he goes, “Hey hello, so just to be clear, I was wondering what was shining so bright and it dawned on me, it was you in the pretty red dress”.

After exchanging contacts, you both get talking and he begins to ask personal questions, like what you do for a living, if you have a boyfriend or not, and the likes.

This is just a way to show he is interested in you and is measuring how well you fit in his lifestyle. And the same thing goes for the ladies.

12. They Seem to Be Everywhere

Flirts would strategically position themselves in places they know you would be. And this happens especially among friends.

Being everywhere you make them visible to you. In other words, it makes you notice them. And the more you notice, the easier it is to catch your attention.


There is a thin line between being friendly and flirting. These 12 signs can help you know when someone is flirting with you, even if they are just a “friend”.

The goal of every flirt is to get your attention. Once they have your attention, it is easier to make their moves, and depending on how tactical they are, you would find yourself in love.

Be careful though. Not every flirt is your friend.

What flirting experience have you had before? Drop some gist for me in the comment section.


What are the signs someone is flirting with you over a text?

When someone is flirting with you over a text, they tend to reply quickly, double text, hint at hanging out, and may not want the conversation to stop.

What are the signs a guy is flirting with you?

 A guy who is flirting with you will always make effort to get your attention, compliment you frequently, shoot you glances and act differently around you.

What are the signs of flirting from a woman?

A woman who is flirting with you will try to touch you casually, maintains eye contact with you, and would want to walk with you regularly.

What are some workplace flirting signs?

Someone who is flirting with you at work would always take lunch breaks with you, text you frequently outside working hours, and give you attention in group meetings.