Love Isn’t the Most Important Thing in A Relationship

Love Isn’t the Most Important Thing in A Relationship

by | Sep 17, 2022 | Relationships & Weddings

Love. The burning sensation you feel whenever you see that person. The sense of deep and tender attachment. The mortal yet physically beautiful feeling (It’s Shakespeare oo, not me). The most stubborn yet persistent illusion. Oops, sorry, I got carried away. That was Einstein defining time.

But whatever your definition of love is, them letting you sleep (seriously, what’s more love than that?), annoying the living daylight out of them, you can’t deny that love is the most important thing in a relationship. Or is it? What if I tell you you are wrong? That love is not the most important thing in a relationship?

I know, I know. You must think I’m some heartbroken fella who’s just been served ‘breakfast’ or a love hater. But hear me out before you judge me, okay? (Or fall in love with me, idk)

If you believe love is the most important thing in a relationship, read these 13 proven ways to make someone love you and leave us alone. Here, we are discussing things that are more important than love.

Now that we’re alone, behold the 7 most important things in a relationship.

7 Most Important Things in A Relationship

Now don’t confuse these important things in a relationship with the 7C’s of communication. Those are about communicating effectively, for those interested in that kind of thing.

These 7Cs of relationship are developed by yours truly. No, seriously. Do you see why I asked you to judge me later? I’ll gladly accept your apologies now.

So what are these 7 Cs that I’m rambling about? They are;

  • Compassion, Care, and Concern
  • Communication and Comprehension
  • Compromise
  • Compatibility
  • Consistency
  • Complains
  • Comfort

Let’s dive in (not into love),  shall we?

Compassion, Care, and Concern

This is what many people confuse love for, even though they are different. They care, so obviously, they love you. After all, people only show concern to the people they value the most.

‘Have you eaten?’

‘Call me when you arrive safely’

Classic I care phrases. Until they serve you breakfast. I am not prophesizing sha.

Showing concern and care (even if fake) are definitely one of the most important things in a relationship.

Ask people who’ve been married for 20 years plus (apologies to the under 20s), and they’ll tell you what remains after all that love fades (whatever it is) is caring and compassion.

Communication and Comprehension

Am I communicating?

Communication is a big deal in relationships, and improving communication skills with your significant other is one of the things you should consider when choosing a life partner. It will help you go a long way in strengthening your relationship with your partner.

Not that it won’t end ultimately, but you get the gist.

But allow me to add that comprehension is equally important. Let me give you an example.

A: “Hi love, I’ll need to go watch football today. I’ll call you later. Take care.”

B: “So football is more important than me”

Or

A: “I feel like you don’t love me anymore.”

B:  “What did I do now? Am I caught cheating”?

For scenario one, the message was that A wanted to take time off the relationship (do they do that ?) to watch their favorite team. On the other hand, B believes that the game is more important than the relationship.

Unfortunately for A (and fortunately for B), they trash his favorite team 8:2. So now he’s grumpy and doesn’t bother reaching out like he promised, confirming B’s suspicion.

As for the second, all they needed was reassurance.

“Why will you think so? You know I love you to the moon of mars and back, and I’ll do anything for you. Come let me give you chocolates.”

But then, due to the lack of comprehension (and effective communication), A gets all defensive, and an argument ensues, followed by 3 days of non-talking.

Need I talk more about communication and comprehension?

Compromise

If I am asked to name one word that best describes love, I’ll say ‘compromise.’ That’s another word for sacrifice.

You love something, and your partner can’t stand that? You avoid it.

You want something, and your partner wants something else? You reach a compromise.

You want to sleep, and your partner wants you to watch a movie? You sleep.

You think there’s a compromise on sleep? Please. Try again.

Anyways, for any relationship to work effectively, both parties must compromise. Willingly.

Next time sacrifice that El Classico match for your wife to watch her favorite Telemundo show, and she’ll do the same for you next time.

Or not.

Compatibility

Don’t go and look for someone you’re not compatible with oo! According to a love Guru, compatibility is one of the most important things in a relationship. I’m the love Guru, by the way.

Are you an extreme introvert who prefers your own company to other people around? (I’m referring to you), then look for someone who won’t always bring friends home.

Are you a foodie who loves that source of sustenance without which you’ll die? Look for someone with the same passion for not dying of starvation.

Do you love sleeping with the lights on? Find someone who is a cultist like you.

You love sleep? Look for someone who you can participate in a sleeping competition with. Just don’t ask me who’ll do the cooking when you guys wake up.

Compatibility also means determining if you have the same genotype, Rh factor, parenting styles, and expectations. Asking these is one of the first things you must do at the start of every relationship.

Don’t say I am AS, so?  

To be sure, you can also take these medical tests before marriage.

Consistency

You can’t take a break from these things. Forget the classic ‘I need break’ statements; they’re meant to soften the blow.

There is no rest. You wake up every day and do it over and over again. Till…well, till whatever happens happens.

The other gender is all about this and believes consistency is one of the most important things in a relationship.

Why start what he can’t finish, they ask?

My gender, on the other hand, is guilty of this.

You send her bouquets every week, bomb her phone with sweet text messages every day, and constantly tell her she’s beautiful, yet stop after marriage? Naah, you probably have another woman somewhere (according to them oo)

So for your own sake and that of your relationship, only introduce her to a vibe you can maintain.

I didn’t say you shouldn’t do all those things, though.

Or did I?

Complains

This is where you throw the phone and be like, what the heck is this guy talking about?

Again, hear me out.

The other gender loves this. If they love you, they have to be able to complain to you about the most mundane of things.

The fact that in a closet full of clothes, she has nothing to wear or that her co-worker wore the same top as her and she felt so embarrassed (bro is probably thinking, what’s wrong with that? We’ll even take a picture).

The point is that women love complaining about things; it is their love language. The fact that they complain about you doesn’t mean they don’t value you. They do, and to them, complaints are one of the most important things in a relationship.

So next time she complains that she ‘has to handle everything,’ resist the urge to quip ‘including the bills?’ Don’t say I didn’t warn you. Enjoy the complaints (pronounced as compliments) while it lasts.

If they stop coming, well, you already know what that means.

Comfort

Who doesn’t love a luxurious life? To be treated like royalty. Dinner dates in exquisite places, lots of flowers, great food, uninterrupted sleep on a king-sized bed with lots of pillows while soft music…

Okay, I got carried away. But you get the gist.

If you’re comfortable enough, you don’t need to worry about some relationship problems.

Why let your relationship deteriorate when you can buy a bouquet and plenty of chocolates or take a private jet to land in their city to apologize anytime you mess up?

A life of comfort and riches? Yep, one of the most important things in a relationship. Just ask your rich friends in a relationship. Don’t stone me oo. I didn’t say you are not rich.

Bonus: Children

Okay, the last one, I promise. I couldn’t resist the urge to sneak in this one. This could be controversial, as it might make or mar your relationship. Having children can reignite that spark if you look for the long-lost love in your relationship.

Or lose all forms of affection for you and devote 100% attention to the child. Either way, it is a win-win, right?

So here it is, folks. The 7 most important things in a relationship, otherwise called the 7Cs of relationship, as coined by yours truly. Do you agree with them? Of course, you do. Let me know to what extent in the comments.

If you want to share your amazing experiences in the comments, perhaps I might just write on it next time.

The Return of The Skinny Jeans

The Return of The Skinny Jeans

by | Sep 16, 2022 | Beauty & Fashion

Skinny jeans have been all the rage since 2008. It became part of men’s clothes and has remained popular and one of the defining fashion pieces for both men and women in the past decades before it faded.

Until recently.

Skinny jeans are not just confined to ‘jeans’ it is slim-fitting trousers, including all fashion items like suit trousers, joggers, and so on.

Skinny jeans, as we know them appeared first in the 50s. They later came back in the 90s and disappeared in early 2000 when the flair jeans came into fashion. Skinny jeans later became a thing decades later and are still in vogue to date.

While some major fashion changes occur every year or two, minor changes occur almost constantly. Old trends are updated with minor tweaks, or old styles are re-invented.

How skinny jeans have lasted this long is still a mystery; perhaps it’s such a chic thing and goes with anything and everything.

Anytime the flair jeans are in vogue, the skinny jeans disappear. That hasn’t been the case since 2008, and skinny jeans have been reigning. The end is not in sight for these jeans because of their versatility.

15+ Unisex Hausa Names You Can Name Your Child

15+ Unisex Hausa Names You Can Name Your Child

by | Aug 18, 2022 | History

Have you ever wondered how to find a gender-neutral name for your baby? One of the many ways you can do that is to name your baby with unisex Hausa names. Some people might want to consider a unisex name for their baby. This does not necessarily mean that the name has to be gender neutral, but it could be a name that could go either way. This popular trend is gaining momentum, but it can be difficult to find a unisex name that isn’t already popular.

Today, I will give you various unisex names in Hausa, as seen in the list below. You can check for other traditional Hausa names if you are interested.

1. Gambo

2. Kaka

3. Shekarau

4. Tawaye

5. Auta

6. Azumi – Born during the month of Ramadan for males, “Ramadan” is the name

7. Kyauta

8. Rabo

9. Tsakani

10. Mailafiya

11. Baba

12. Tala – Born on Tuesday for males, “Dan” is added as a prefix

13. Ladi – Born on Sunday for males, “Dan” is added as a prefix

14. Jumma – Born on Friday for females, “i” is added as a suffix

15. Asabe – Born on Saturday for males, “Dan” is added as a prefix

16. Balaraba- Born on Wednesday for males. “Balarabe” is the name

17. Atine – Born on Monday for males. “Dan Liti” is the name

18. Lami – Born on Thursday for males, “Dan” is added as a prefix

Why Do You Need Unisex Hausa Names?

There is no doubt that the world is becoming more and more accepting of gender fluidity. More and more people are choosing to live their lives outside of the traditional and religious norms of what it means to be a man or a woman. But even though our society is constantly changing, our names have not. Unisex Hausa names are a new way of naming that is becoming popular in our society. This type of naming has been used to help people who don’t feel comfortable with their gender identity.

Unisex names are great for a variety of reasons;

  • Unisex names allow parents to choose whatever name they like, regardless of whether they have a son or daughter.
  • They are gender-neutral, which means they can be given to a child of either gender.
  • Hausa unisex names allow parents to choose a name that reflects the child’s personality. For the most part, it’s best to stick with traditional names.

How to Find the Best Unisex Hausa Names for Your Child

Some unisex Hausa names are commonly used among females, such as Azumi and Kyauta. Some Rabo and Baba are more commonly used among males. The first step to finding a unisex name is to think about what you want your name to be.

Some people want their names to reflect their personality, while others want their names to sound like the name of their favorite celebrity. It’s up to you to decide what you want your name to be. If you want to find a unisex Hausa name, you should choose a name that is not gender-specific.

Conclusion

Names are a very important and personal decision. They are something that goes with you for a lifetime. This is why it’s so important to choose a unique name. This can be done by choosing an unusual, unique, or unisex name. This can be done by choosing a gender-neutral and gender-appropriate name.

Unisex Hausa names can be made into a gender-specific names by adding a suffix or prefix. For example, a name like “Balaraba” can be made into a boy’s name named “Balarabe” by removing “a” and adding the suffix “e.” A name like “Asabe” can be made into a boy’s name named “Dan Asabe” by adding the prefix “Dan.”

Which unisex Hausa name do you like the most? Which was the most shocking? Let me know in the comments.

Safarau’s Dressing Style Evolution

Safarau’s Dressing Style Evolution

by | Jul 18, 2022 | Hot Gist

Safeeya Yusuf, also known as Safara’u Kwana Casa’in A.K.A Safa, needs no introduction. She is an artist, entertainer, actress, and businesswoman. Nothing much has changed about the actress. Well, nothing except her dressing style.

Recently, Safara’u has preferred baggy shirts and clothes. Fans of the singer when she was an actress in the hit series Kwana Casa’in know this is not how she used to dress back then. The actress dressed in Atamfa and veils back then, but just like Nafisa Abdullahi’s dressing style has evolved over the years, the same for Safa.

So what influenced the transition?

The actress had been body-shamed for her ‘thin’ looks. One user on Instagram once commented on her video and likened her physique to ‘an umbrella.’

Safa had also been criticized for having just ‘one shirt,’ which she is seen wearing in many videos.

This, coupled with the actress being criticized for her nose ring and other ‘immoral dressing,’ necessitated the change.

Safa was also heavily criticized for hugging colleague Mr_442 in a viral video. She was wearing a baggy shirt too, then, of course.

Since her forced exit from the Kannywood industry, the actress had slowly transitioned from Abaya and Atamfa clothes to baggy English wear.

The dressing evolution became more pronounced in May 2022, when a quick check on her Instagram page revealed all baggy dressings. Even her birthday shoot on the 23rd of June, 2022, featured not-so-skinny clothes.

This might be a coping mechanism to escape body shaming and criticism of her dressing. Like how American popstar Billie Eilish wears baggy shirts so people won’t judge or sexualize her, Safaa appears to be doing the same.

How effective might that be? Only time will tell.

“I Washed Panties and Bras of Kannywood Actress Before I Became Popular” – Mustafa Nabaraska

“I Washed Panties and Bras of Kannywood Actress Before I Became Popular” – Mustafa Nabaraska

by | Apr 1, 2022 | Hot Gist

  • Actor turned politician revealed how he made it in the Kannywood Industry
  • He also told how he bought cigarettes for the actresses
  • “How director humiliated me.”
  • Actor turned comedian is now an Advisor to the Kano State Governor

Kannywood actor and comedian Mustafa Naburaska is a famous actor in the Kannywood industry. But it hasn’t always been so. Before the actor found fame, he had done many things to make ends meet.

The actor has acted in popular films like Basaja featuring Adam Zango.

According to the actor, he ran errands for the Kannywood actresses then. He also washed their underwear before he was allowed to feature in movies. The actor revealed such in an interview with TV Station Arewa24.

Read: “Arewa 24 is Funded by the US”

“The first thing I was usually sent to buy was cigarettes,” the actor revealed. “I also washed and ironed the clothes of the old Kannywood actresses we have now. I washed their pants and bras and held a bag of a popular actress that I won’t mention.” He added.

The actor further revealed how a famous Director then, Rabi’u Ibrahim refused to cast him in his movie.

The actor has since become successful, with many movies and comedy skits. He is also a politician, and an activist, a feat which earned him a nomination to serve as the Special Advisor to the Governor of Kano State on Kannywood affairs.

From grass to grace indeed!

The actor’s wife also recently put to bed, as he announced on his Instagram page. Congratulations to the new parents!