1 Out of 4 People in Arewa Suffer from Mental Conditions And This Is Why

1 Out of 4 People in Arewa Suffer from Mental Conditions And This Is Why

The rambles of traditional medicine sellers through loudspeakers is the hallmark of northern Nigerian markets. We buy a myriad of regimens to strengthen our physical health, but the noun ‘mental health’ sounds unfamiliar to our intellects, even though many people suffer from mental health conditions in northern Nigeria.

To the average northerner, the mentally ill are those communally neglected people that are left to roam the streets with rags, eating insects, worms, and whatever is within their reach in the garbage and dumping sites.

Well, you will no longer look at mental health from this angle after reading this post.

Are We Mentally Healthy?

Mental Health simply means emotional well-being, the ability of a person to cope with the normal stresses of life. Look at its positive side, and do what is beneficial to his/her immediate community.

Research has shown that one out of four people suffers from one mental health condition in northern Nigeria. This means, if there are 8 people in your family, 2 are mentally ill, one might ask: why don’t we see them eating sand or greeting the clouds? It’s because mental illness is wider than what we imagine it to be.

My question goes: are you always able to manage normal stress, see positivity, and do what is beneficial to others? We all are/might be patients at some point in life I suppose.

Time to Change Our Mindset

An average northerner does not count mental disorders among the major causes of physical ailments and morbidity. Also, an average northerner does not believe that western medicine can cure/manage mental disorder patients; hence, we associate mental illnesses with entirely different causes. Take a look at the following instances;

Children with attention deficit disorders who struggle with understanding concepts in school, yet we call them dullards

People with schizophrenia hear, see, and react to hallucinations, they relate to subjects that aren’t real. For that, we blame sorcery, witchcraft, or jinn possession

We believe people with amnesia (memory loss) and dementia (continuous loss of cognitive function) are caused by magical attacks from rivals.

Those suffering from social phobia who find it hard to relate with others and prefer staying in solitude are tagged as arrogant and masu-ji-ji-dakai. If they try socializing, they end up with anger issues due to anxiety disorders and we say they are jarababbu.

Someone afflicted by depression is tagged mai-ƙunci. After enduring and they decide to opt for suicide, they get judged by the community as someone that has no trust in Allah’s plan (maras tawakkali)

Whilst all the above boldly mental health conditions in northern Nigeria and many more could be prevented by family support or managed by doctors, out of unawareness and negligence, we subject the patients to stigma and inhumane treatments.

How Do We Handle the Patients?

Most families regard it as an insult to have a mentally ill individual as their member; others imagine it to be a curse upon the lineage. For that, families and companions relate to the mentally ill in the following inhumanely ways;

Turning deaf ears to the stress, and not giving a damn about the emotional stability of fellows

Restriction of amnesia and dementia patients from meeting friends and guests in a bid to conceal their situation

Chaining  schizophreniacs with shackles to restrict movement and ensure the privy of their status

Taking panic attacks and epilepsy (not purely psychiatric) patients to traditional or religious rehabilitation centers, where they get whippings and incantations. A pity!

Giving food leftovers to the mentally ill, abandoning them to sleep on the streets with some even raped in the process.

The Good News Is…

When talking about physical health, we all know that some diseases are curable while others are manageable but none is invincible. The same applies to mental health, by consulting your primary care physician. You can be referred to a mental health specialist for proper treatment of your own or your loved ones’ mental disturbances.

The common signs of mental disorders include:

  • Extreme anger and frustration
  • Difficulty sleeping, sleeping excessively or other sleeping disorders.
  • Excessive fear of events or imaginary situations
  • Excessive eating or depressed appetite
  • Inattention, depressed mood, and fatigue
  • Alternating episodes of fanaticism and depression
  • Restlessness for not taking a drug or drink
  • Hearing, seeing, believing, or reacting to things or events that are not real.

When you have any of the above signs or notice any of them with a friend or family member, you shouldn’t delay consulting doctors for the condition to be curbed before getting worse. Just like malaria, mental illnesses are trials one should not be ashamed of suffering, seek out proper care. Please.

In addition, you should keep an eye on this space for subsequent posts about mental health awareness and improvements.

Remember; healthy mind, healthy life!

Does Virginity Depend on The First Night Bleed?

Does Virginity Depend on The First Night Bleed?

In Arewa and many other cultures, it’s believed that virginity depends on the first-night bleed. That’s why some couples use white bed sheets for the bloodstain to be seen.

If the woman didn’t bleed at the first intercourse in her matrimonial home, it is considered she had pre-marital sex. Hence the accusing fingers of infidelity, harlotry, and other baddies point at her no matter how sane she was formally considered.

All these are because most people don’t know much about the hymen.

What is Hymen?

The hymen is a piece of membrane that is situated about an inch and a half deep inside the vaginal canal. It separates the outer part from the inner part within the vaginal walls. One might ask if there’s a membrane then how does the menstrual blood flow out? Well, the hymen has a small opening(s) through which the blood passes.

Like any other part of the human body, the hymen does not look the same in every female. Some hymens are rich in blood vessels and nerves, others are not.

While most females have thick or thin hymens, some few others have no hymen at all, they were born with no hymen! Yes, it is normal and poses no health risks.

What Causes Premier Bleeding?

In females with hymens rich in blood supply, there occurs tear of the hymen at first penetration which causes the bleeding, with accompanied pain if the torn hymen is rich in nerves.

This bleeding is what makes the bride proud, the groom fulfilled and the families satisfied with the virginity and moral decency of the bride.

What if She didn’t Bleed?

Since we said that the bleeding is due to a tear of the hymen at first penetration, what of those that passed the first night with no blood drop?

Remember we said that some females have hymens not rich in blood supply, in these cases, there might be very little blood to be seen.

Also, nature blesses a fraction of females with thin hymen that could easily tear during exercise, cycling, horse riding, a simple act of running, or use of wrong sized tampons mostly with no bleeding or pain as the result of the poor blood vessels and nerves in the thin membrane. And if it bleeds and pains, it’s mostly mistaken for menstrual flow and cramps. It had gone! Unnoticed!

Moreover, about 1 in every 300 females was born without a hymen. Therefore, they experience no bleeding at first intercourse

Shikenan!

So, the above-mentioned categories plus the few unfortunate ones that faced the wrath of sexual violence, are all punished by our collective dogma of any bride that didn’t bleed on the first night is overly-experienced. Uncultured. Bad. Cursed.

What a pity!

Red Flag: Re-virgination

Since society defines any woman that bleeds on the first night as a virgin. No matter how bad her record was, the medical community came up with an option; hymenoplasty.

Hymenoplasty is the surgical reconstruction of broken hymen. The operation is been done by surgeons, heals early with hard-to-notice traces. It restores the hymen, therefore the lost ‘pride’.

After the procedure, the hymen appears intact again and bleeds as supposed at the next penetration. Period!

By now, I hope you understand that not all virgins have the hymens to break and bleed, and not all those that bleed were virgins.

Help me answer the question, does virginity depends on the first-night bleed? It’s high time we stop determining the virginity of women by an uncertain fragile tissue. Some lost it by accident, few were not given at all.

Stop the stigma, spread love!