by Michelle Anama Abari | Dec 20, 2021 | Business & Finance
Your name is an extension and representation of yourself. Your name speaks for you when you are not there. Your name is a symbol of you, your name is you, your name is your brand. Your name can reinforce the value you provide or distance you from it.
A lot of people start up a business without knowing how to brand their business and this leads to a lot of loss from them. Knowing how to name your business brand should be very essential when starting up your business. Your brand name can either make or break your company, you have to be very critical and logical when naming your company.
When you are developing a name for a business, a product, or a service, you have several options:
- Use the founder or inventor’s name (Hewlett-Packard)
- Describe what you do (Southwest Airlines)
- Describe an experience or image (S Print)
- Take a word out of context (Apple)
- Make up a word(Google)
A clear, powerful name can be extremely helpful in your marketing and brand efforts. This is because it says a lot about you and it speaks for you, for instance…
Storytelling
Fundamentally, stories are about connection. They offer universals for everyone to relate to, and they establish common experiences between people.
In business, storytelling can be a powerful tool, especially when it comes to branding. But, what if I told you that you can also use your brand name to tell a story?
Story-driven names use metaphors and references, like Nike and Amazon. Nike is the Greek goddess of victory. Amazon refers to the largest forest on earth. From these metaphorical names, we can tease out intriguing stories.
- Nike’s story leads us on a journey of powerful achievement and victory-powerful associations for an athletic wear brand.
- Amazon’s metaphor speaks to discovery and the endless, nourishing variety found in the rainforest.
Story-driven business names are intriguing. They draw people in. they also have the bonus of setting up an association between your brand and an established story. Every story provides a foundation of connection and values.
Storytelling in its form helps you to know how to name your business brand.
Some other ways on how to name your business brand include…
Make Sure the Name Can be Carried Over to Your Logo, Slogans, and Taglines
Brand consistency is critical to growth, and it all starts with your brand name. The name should look and sound great alongside the rest of your branding: logos, taglines, slogans, etc.
To put these tips into perspective, you can take inspiration from successful brands and their taglines:
Apple: Think Different.
Before it became synonymous with a world-class company, ‘Apple’ did not sound like much of a tech name. Despite sharing its name with a fruit, Apple successfully entrenched itself in the digital technology industry. And the slogan “Think Different” reflects what Apple stands for: an innovative tech company that differentiates itself from other brands in every way-including its unorthodox brand name.
Another Way of Knowing How to Name your Business Brand is by Using a Name that Conveys Some Meaning
Let your brand name have a meaning, it could be an acronym or just a word meaning something. For instance the Nigerian skincare product, Arami. Arami is a Yoruba word meaning my body.
Another is example is that of one of the biggest tech companies, Samsung. Samsung is a Korean word meaning “three stars”. The name was chosen by Samsung founder Lee Byung-Chull whose vision was for his company to become powerful and everlasting like stars in the sky. And Samsung is today the best android tech company in the world and it is often compared with Apple products. Samsung is a successful large company today because of the meaning behind its name.
If you are looking for how to name your business brand, a sure way is making sure that the name you come up with has a good meaning, it draws customers.
Personalize Your Brand Name
I have this very good friend of mine who owns a paint company and he used the initials of his name to get his brand name for his business. This is because he is very big on family, thereby promoting his family name by putting his family name into business. And because of this, he is excelling very well in his business. if I do say so myself!
Other well-known brands around the world are also known to personalize business by using their names. For instance, Versace makes bags, clothes, shoes, scarves, and other luxurious accessories. Versace is an Italian name that happens to be the surname of a small Italian family. They personalized their businesses by using their family names and today, these brands are one of the most luxurious brands in the world.
Other brands that use their family names are Gucci, Louis Vuitton, Channel, etc. all these are brands that used their names, and today they are excelling financially. Want to know to name your business brand? Make sure you personalize your business, it must not be the name you use, but the name is personal to you and your business.
Another Good Way to Name your Brand is by Relating it to Your Business
You own a fashion store and your brand name will read “divine food”. That does not make sense at all. Whatever business you are going into, let your brand name relate to your business.
I have a good friend of mine who is into pastries and she does make good pastries. When she started her business, she actually did not have a name and all, but then as time went on, she got a very good name from her relative which very much relates to her business. And today, her business is doing well, mainly because the name is very catchy and it relates to her line of business.
Let your brand name relate to your business and your business plan. This will bring the right customers to you.
Avoid Hard to Spell Names
Keeping your brand name simple, short, and meaningful is something you should know about branding your business. You do not need a long name like an encyclopedia. Let your name be simple to spell. For example, the automobile company owned by one of the richest men in the world, Elon Musk is called Tesla. The name is very simple and easy to spell and pronounce. This is what a brand name should be like, simple and easy to pronounce.
The thing about customers is that they are attracted to your brand name and your logo. So once either your brand name or logo has an issue with them, they lose interest in whatever products you are selling. So having an easy brand name is key to knowing how to name your business brand.
Make Sure your Brand Name is Unique
The last issue you want to face is trademarks suit, so before setting your heart on a brand name, do some research to see whether other brands are already using it.
There are times you get an exact match, there might still be some issues, for example, is the business in the same industry or location? Even if it is or is not you can add something like extra symbols or extra words or numbers to the brand name. This way, the brand is unique and stands out from every other industry in that line of business you are venturing into.
And Finally…
Naming your business brand is a whole lot of work. It is not something that one thinks of overnight and thinks it is the best. Branding your business should be more than just a name, you should research and link the name to the business in such a way that it is very unique and captivating. I mean, look at brands like Google. Google was a made-up word but today, it made its way into the English dictionary.
Let your brand name be different but simple and very catchy. It will bring customers to you. Your brand name represents you and it lures people who would be very much proud to wear your name on them. For example, Gucci, Versace, Aldo amongst others.
Think hard and explore names before you find that name that speaks volumes of your business, your logo, your slogan, and most especially of you.
by Abu Hafsah | Dec 20, 2021 | Personal Growth
Nowadays, respect is something that has become scarce in our society. One tends to lose respect in the eyes of people around him/her without even realizing so. Well, some make deliberate efforts to lose respect in the eyes of people due to their nonchalant attitudes. And some, on the other hand, lose it because they fail to understand the core values and attitude that needs to be inculcated to help keep his/her respect in the sight of people. If you are by any chance worrying about how to get people to respect you, then worry no more as I have to your aid.
Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. Respect is earned, not given.
Hussein Nishah
It is important to note that to have people respect you, you have to earn it and not demand it. Demanding for it only brings about more hatred on you by the people you are asking that from. Below are some of the ways or attributes that one needs to have to be respected by people around him/her and even far away.
13 Ways to Get People to Respect You
1. Be Yourself
Being oneself entails one to be in their most natural, sincere, comfortable, and ingenious state of mind. I will advise that you should always try to be yourself around people wherever you find yourself. As tempting as it may be to be what you are not because you do not want to feel inferior among people or in a crowd, do not.
The repercussion of not being yourself is that there will surely come a time that people will find out the real you no matter how good an actor you are. Of course, you know what that means to your integrity. However, if you have an attitude generally not acceptable in society or the people around you, quit it. For instance, theft lies, and the likes are habits that one shouldn’t be associated with.
So, if you want to be respected by people, always be yourself.
2. Be Independent
One of the fastest and surest ways of getting people to respect you is by being independent, most especially being financially independent. If you want to lose your respect in the eyes of people within a short period of time, be financially dependent.
Therefore, do not beg people to survive. Be able to fend for your needs and that of your family without asking anyone, if not, people, even your family will see you as a liability and do not even want to see you close to them or associate themselves with you.
This is where hard work comes into play. You can’t skip this hurdle if you are lazy. Find something to do to earn a living no matter how little it is and give in your all to it, then wait for God’s blessing as His blessings cover and surround everything.
3. Respect People Too
Respect is a two-way street, if you want to get it, you’ve got to give it.
R.G. Risch
If want to get people to respect you, respect them too – it is should be a two-way thing. Do not look down on anyone simply because you are wealthier than they are, educated, privileged, and the likes. Respect people regardless of their status. Everyone feels good and honoured when you show them respect. This will make them reciprocate that gesture by respecting you too.
4. Always Mind Your Business
Looking for how to get people to respect you? Do not meddle in peoples’ affairs. Stop interfering in matters that do not concern you. As such, do not gossip, backbite, blackmail, and eavesdrop on and about people. Also, asking people married couples who haven’t had a child the reason why they haven’t is not minding your business, so also asking someone why he/she is lean. These are matters that do not concern you. You will just end up opening their old wounds.
Remember, you have lots of things to worry or care about regarding yourself. Why don’t just focus on them and try to see ways you can be better as a person?
5. Care for Your Friends and Family
This is the unwavering and unconditional support you give to your friends and family. In other words, it means going above and beyond to care for them out of genuine concern for their health, happiness, and wellbeing and not out of obligation.
Always know that people have eyes and can see. They will surely respect you for that, not only them but people around who notice.
6. Empower People
Do you want people to respect you? It’s simple, just empower them. Empower them in any way that you can. Do not just concentrate on yourself, your family, and your friends. No. Go out there and seek people who need your help and make their lives better. Be the reason that made them not give up in life. Make their lives meaningful.
You don’t only empower people when you give them money, No. As a matter of fact, there are different ways to empower a person.
Take, for instance, you have the opportunity to help someone get a job, then make it happen without asking for a penny in return; you have the opportunity to smoosh someone to help another get assistance – say a promotion or get selected in a programme that means so much to them, then do it. This will surely earn you respect in the eyes of the people.
6. Acknowledge and Respect People’s Opinions and Feelings
Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.
Roy T. Bennett
We are all humans but different in a number of ways and of course, have different ways of seeing things. You may choose to see Tuwon Masara as a delicious delicacy for instance, but I see it as trash! Sometimes, we may agree on certain things or issues.
In other to earn the respect of people, learn to respect their opinion. Try and see things from their own perspective as that will help you acknowledge and respect whatever it is they have to say or do.
We don’t need to share the same opinions as others, but we need to be respectful.
Taylor Swift
7. You Want to Know How to Get People to Respect You? Dress Modestly
As the saying goes,
Dress the way you want to be addressed.
Modesty entails you dressing in a way that appeals to the majority of the people around you or the place you live in or where you are going. In the northern part of Nigeria for instance, modesty is something that is very common as people hardly dress half-naked. You can’t be respected if you live in environments like that and not dress in that way.
In addition, nobody takes you seriously if you are not modestly dressed. For instance, you can’t be having a hairstyle like the head of a rooster and expect people you meet for the first time to respect you. As a matter of fact, the first attribute they will associate you with is irresponsibility.
8. Say ‘No’ to Social Vices
Knowledge will give you power, but character will give you respect.
Bruce Lee
Social vices are bad traits or behaviours such as drug addiction, illicit sex, evil or immoral behaviours such as examination malpractice, murder, thuggery, and other criminal tendencies. Whatever status or respect you have, even if it is as high as a mountain, engaging in social vices can bring it down in no time.
If unfortunately, you happen to be a perpetrator of such acts, now is the right time for you to stop associating yourself with them; there is no better time than now. Nonetheless, if you haven’t, do not embrace it. You have clearly seen how some people have gone insane as a result of drug abuse, or got pregnant out of wedlock, or were expelled from school as a result of examination malpractice.
So, if you want to be respected by people, say no to social vices and do not perpetuate them in whatever form.
9. Be Educated Enough
There is something about an educated person that tends to attract people and gain respect from them without even trying. Of course, as an educated person, the way you talk, listen, reason, think, analyze, walk, and the likes is different your counterpart’s. All these positive attributes about you are what people are looking for to respect you.
On this note, I urge you to be educated. Get up and dust that lazy ass of yours and seek knowledge.
10. Be Trustworthy
Being trustworthy is when one is deserving of trust and confidence and is also dependable and reliable. As a matter of fact, this is something almost gone missing amongst many people nowadays as against what we have a few decades back.
Be someone who people can rely on when your testimony is needed anywhere, any time; be someone who when money or a valuable item is given to, will be available as it is without damage or misplacement or theft; also, be someone who people can entrust anything to and be rest assured.
All these trustworthy attributes should be seen in you to attract respect from people.
11. Settle Down
Settling down is one of the fastest ways of attracting respect from people, most especially in this part of the country that we are – Northern Nigeria. It is not surprising that it does because of the sense of responsibility that you have for your partner or kids. You tend to be a more responsible person compared to when you were single.
So if you want to attract respect from people, quickly tie the knot with someone – someone deserving though.
12. Always be Courteous
You are said to be courteous when your good manners show friendliness and concern for others. Be willing to hold the door for people entering a building with you; be willing to speak politely to a person below you in terms of social status and literacy; also, be willing to help the aged lift or move stuff even without being asked to – this is actually one of the signs you were raised by Nigerian parents.
In addition, courteous behaviour is a reminder of the value of good manners. So if you want to be respected by people, try the habit of courteousness.
13. Give In Your All to Make Money
I saved the best for the last – make money. How to get people to respect you? Try hard to get something doing to fetch you money legally. It could be hobbies that bring in good money or a side hustle while working full time. I know you are smiling now. People naturally have the proclivity to respect people who spend like they don’t care.
With money, you can buy respect I tell you. Furthermore, people will listen and obey you way more than they will for people in authority most especially when you have the giving hands. With money, you can even have your in-laws bow before you.
That’s the power of money!
Conclusion
Being respected is something every normal person wants to be attributed to. It gives you that sense of importance in the eyes of your friends, family, spouse, children, community, and society at large. On the other hand, lacking the respect attribute makes you less important in society.
How to get people to respect you is an easy goal if you attribute yourself to the above-mentioned ways.
If you find this article worthwhile, kindly leave a comment in the comments section.
The next step after getting respect is to make a good impression on people.
by Editorial Staff | Dec 20, 2021 | Northy Letter
The end of the year is upon us, and I’m back again to update you on our latest ish of the past week. This past week passed like a breeze but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t thinking of you, I always am.
Monday
Have you ever come across a TED Talk? If you haven’t, this is an opportunity for you to learn about it. Katsina State was shut down for the TEDX Kangiwa Event. This isn’t just any event, it is one that has all the elements of learning and having fun so read up and let me know what you think.
You’re a civil servant or your job requires you to wait for the end of the month to come before you receive a salary. I have a surprise for you – 9 Ideas to Make a Side Income While Managing Your Business, because frankly speaking, you can’t wait for the end of the month every month. What if an emergency comes up? I wouldn’t be able to handle seeing you mess up your budget, hence this solution.
If on the other hand, you want to start a business, then here are 6 Things to Consider before Starting a Business. Many businesses fail because people just jump into it without, but as you have me to look out for you, yours will not fail. I got you.
Tuesday
First time I heard the word ‘Metaverse’ I didn’t even bother to find out more about it because I thought there was no way that word was not an alien-related word and I’m just not with that. Turns out I was wrong and it has to do with technology, which is the order of the day. I wouldn’t want you to end up like me so I give to you what The Metaverse is and Why It Matters to You.
Speaking of technology, you don’t always have to work in an office, you can work from home and do that, here are 9 Amazing Sites That Pay You to Write. You can just fold your legs and do it in bed.
Ever been in those relationships where your heart kept aching? It wasn’t because you didn’t love your partner, but because they fed you love in halves or did any of the thousand things toxic partners do. You Will Find Out If You Are In A Toxic Relationship By Taking This Quiz.
Wednesday
It is the season, and you know what I mean. I cannot for the life of me keep going to the hospital because of a common cold, I know you can’t either. I think it would be best if we had this at hand – 10 Natural Remedies to Common Cold You Should Know. I think it would save us a trip to the hospital every other week.
6 Natural Ways to Whiten Your Teeth at Home. I know it looks like I’m trying to keep you at home all the time but you can’t blame me when this new covid variant is roaming the streets. I only want to protect you.
If you’re staying at home as I advised, it’s also important you get enough sleep. Ameenah Gumbi gave us 10 Signs You Are Not Getting Enough Sleep because truly this can affect your mood and health. We can’t bet covid and fall victim to some other thing now, can we?
Thursday
As usual, Thursday is history time. Read the Biography of the Talented Hausa Author, Bilkisu Ahmad Funtua. Now, this is a woman who writes marvellous prose in the Hausa dialect. We need to hold on to people like this because I’m afraid we don’t have many writers who write in the local Hausa dialect anymore. Explore this idea.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be curious at all, because if you’re not you wouldn’t want to Meet The First Female Lawyer From Nigeria. She is also the first in so many things.
Friday
I don’t know if the idea of hiking a hill excites but it does excite me. I will be so hyped up by it. The only thing I enjoy more than the idea is reading about people taking a hike, so believe when I say I had an emotional moment when I read Abdulganiyu’s piece – My Visit to Sobi Hill, the Highest Hill in Illorin Was Memorable. Trust me, mine would be memorable too if I went on a thrilling hike like Abdul’s.
Are you tired of coming back to the state of this weather? Because I am, but it never ends. I have to give ammunition against it time and again because this is a war. In fact, I am currently wielding a weapon called gloves and it is on the list of The 10 Best Clothes You Should Own This Harmattan. You better get armed buddy.
Saturday
How to Make Kunun Zaki (Millet Gruel). I can’t imagine how millet could turn sweet, can you? Well, here is an opportunity to see how.
Did you ever wonder if there was any other way to make Cincin other than the only way? Apparently, there is a Hausa way. Read How To Make Cincin The Hausa Way to Find Out.
Sunday
Sunday was saddled with the task of teaching you When & How to Have the Talk with Your Daughter. I never had the talk with my parents and thank God I didn’t because that’d have been hella embarrassing. I mostly just learned from friends, which led to me getting inaccurate information most of the time. I wish I had the talk with my mom instead. It would’ve been embarrassing but awfully necessary. We owe it to our daughters to give them the best accurate information when they hit puberty because it is something nobody can escape.
For couples, if you are wondering How to Keep the Romance Alive After Having Kids, we got you.
How I Became A Lesbian is a story of why you shouldn’t be one. It’s so scary how someone’s curiosity can lead them to do something like that. Curiosity they say killed the cat.
Conclusion
And on that note, we come to the end of our newsletter for the week. I hope you do better, feel better and cover up in this brutal weather. Cheers!
by Editorial Staff | Dec 19, 2021 | Diaries
Hello, beautiful people of Arewa, this is a real-life story of Tata.
My name is Tata Bala, I live in Kaduna state Nigeria, and am the only child of my parents. I can’t say how and when I started digging this ditch that almost led to my death. But, I can only tell you that while at it, I didn’t make the smart choice of staying outside it while I dug.
I remember my first day at my secondary school. I remember how innocent I was back then— innocent, but very curious. My insatiable curiosity back then and even as a child was the glarest feature I possessed, which oftentimes got me into trouble. Interestingly, I was always exploring and trying new things which were just unbelievable like different food combinations during the first few weeks I was there—I won’t stop snooping around.
Also, whenever I saw something fishy that ticked my 6th sense of curiosity, I was sure to follow and find out whether it was something I could try or not. Hence, it didn’t take long for me to learn about the various activities going on within the hostels and even outside. This includes the secret intake of alcoholic drinks by the seniors, the sneaking out of the school through the fence by both senior and junior girls to attend parties and get laid, and of course lesbian activities.
However, I won’t drink or sneak out of the school because even with my childish brain, I knew my parents would skin me alive if they ever found out. Subsequently, before the end of my first term in the school, I was adopted by one of the seniors who wanted me as her ‘school daughter’ — the beautiful senior Kareemah. Senior Kareemah exercised her seniority to get everything done for me; she made my mates and even my seniors who were at that time her juniors wash my dirty uniforms, do my portion, she even bathed me. In essence, I enjoyed my JS1 days because my school mummy spoiled me.
Furthermore, upon resumption for 2nd term in JS1, senior Kareemah moved me into her corner. Thereafter, She’d cover the entire bunk with a blanket draping from the up bunk to make it impossible for eyes to see what’s happening inside her corner. This coverage enabled her to touch me all over and ask me to do the same to her. I will spare you the details.
At first, I can’t say I felt anything other than discomfort when she did that, but I didn’t object to it, I obeyed. Oftentimes, she will keep me up late at night and I’ll wake up the next morning feeling all sore and tired. Anyways, I had no worries since she could get someone to do my portion and I didn’t even have to bathe myself. So, I had all the time to study because everything else was taken care of by my school mum. Hence, I always went back home with colourful results and no one suspected anything at home.
Unfortunately, by the time I wrote my JSSCE exams, I was already saying goodbye to school mum number 3 and was fully aware of what the touching and all was—I felt every single one of the acts. So, when I started ss1 I was bored of being chased and started chasing my own ‘daughter’ and ‘darling’. Yes, we courted girls like us the way boys court girls; we bought gifts, do all the sweet-talking, and fall in love (or so we thought).
Anyway, I got so addicted to lesbianism by the time I got into SS2 and I couldn’t go more than two days without getting down. During the holidays I’ll meet up with my ‘darling’ in her home or mine and indulge the urge behind closed doors and the circle continues. Sadly, when that became impossible I’d just hide in my room and touch myself— it worsened by the day.
This continued even after girls’ college but it took a different turn against me. I went from being happy about my escapades to just being desperate; even after getting down I felt so unsatisfied and unhappy, I found myself growing increasingly miserable by the day.
Subsequently, my darling from secondary school got married during our third year in the university and so my frustration grew—don’t get me wrong, the marriage didn’t stop us from continuing our little dirty secret affair. But, I was frustrated because I was sharing her with her husband now. As time went by, I grew more frustrated, almost depressed; I’d cry when my darling Juju’s husband was around and we couldn’t meet and I needed some more. So, I’d cry after doing it myself and I don’t feel satisfied, sometimes I’d just cry because of nothing.
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My parents started suspecting I was having problems with my academics and they started asking questions but I always answered in the negative. My mom thought I was having boyfriend problems in school and decided to have a mother-to-daughter discussion about boys and relationships—a little too late although I listened with deaf ears, of course, because boys were far from the reason behind my frustration.
Afterward, I didn’t know what happened, but Juju later realized that what we were doing was wrong in the sight of both God and man. So, my darling decided to break up with me and advised me to turn a new leaf too. But oh how deep I was in my bubble of immorality, I couldn’t understand let alone accept what she was suggesting—I was lost.
After that incident with juju, I became very aggressive; I snapped at every little thing, my grades dropped like no man’s business and was soon withdrawn in my final year in the university.
The day I returned home was the darkest for my parents, it was the first day I ever saw my father’s tears (but not the last). Of course, their disappointment in me was similar to them ordering vanilla cake and getting served chocolate cake in return– they were shattered. Anyway, I only felt the impact of their confusion for a little while, because I needed to be satisfied.
I waited impatiently for night to fall so I could get down to business, on the other hand, my mother waited patiently for night to fall, so she could talk to me and find out what was disorienting me. Sadly, that very night God’s willing, I forgot to lock my door before getting to ‘it’ and so my mum walked in on me, naked, right in the middle of it. I didn’t even hear her come in, it was the loud mournful scream she let out that brought me back into my senses— my father who was close by rushed in to see what the problem was and I swear my whole world came crashing at that very moment.
Immediately, my mum who already had a high BP(blood pressure) fainted and was rushed to the hospital, my father won’t even look at me. I wished the ground would just open and swallow me. What have I done?
A week passed without a word from my father, who had spoken to juju (my closest friend to them) and she didn’t hide anything from him. However, my mother had clearly stated that she doesn’t want to see me near her hospital bed. Anyway, my father confided in his friend who in turn advised my parents to send me to a professional to seek psychological help— a shrink.
Furthermore, one morning, my father came to tell me to tie a straight wrapper, wear a t-shirt and pack another set like that alongside my toiletries because I was traveling, I obeyed. The men who had come to get me were all seated in the parlour, each wearing a maka wuya over his shoulders, and holding long prayer beads.
“Muje ko?” they all chorused as they stood up. At that moment, I turned to look at my father, to at least tell him I was sorry and to seek his forgiveness but he had his back against me, so I just left.
I journeyed with those men to Katsina state, where I thought I was going to get help from a professional psychologist. However, little did I know, I was going to a local/traditional correction home ‘Gidan Mari’ to get that much-needed help. Life at
Gidan Mari was very difficult but corrective (I will spare you the details). But, I didn’t leave there until I was able to recite the complete Qur’an and no iota of lesbianism was left in my heart – I suffered in the home, but it was worth it.
Subsequently, I returned to my parents who had forgiven me even before they decided to send me to Gidan Mari, nonetheless, I still asked for their forgiveness. Now, lesbianism is very addictive and like every other addiction, can push one to do the most despicable things just to satisfy that evil urge.
Conclusively, I hope you’ve learned from the story of Tata. In addition, may God Almighty help us live a good life, and may God protect our children in all fields of life from the evils of this world.
by Happiness Hassan | Dec 19, 2021 | Family & Parenting
Keeping the romance alive after a baby is quite difficult to attain but not impossible. This is because with the arrival of a child the love begins to diminish as the mother’s love, care, and affection are diverted towards the well-being of the baby. Indeed, this change is necessary but when it leads to the abandonment of the father it becomes a challenge.
However, as a man in such a position, it’s required that you understand the connection between mothers and their children. Furthermore, refusing to heed to the inner voice of quitting or cheating on your wife. In contrast, speak to her about it and together you can spark up your romance life again by applying the methods outlined in this post.
Ways to Keep the Romance Alive After A Baby
1. As a Couple do Things Together
The more time you both spend together the more alive your love life will be. Sometimes, the kids may appear to be a hindrance, but in real life, there are not. This implies that you both get engaged in doing the activities related to the kids together like school activities.
Afterwards, you both are now free to do other things together like house chores, shopping, cooking, swimming, riding a bike, reading a romantic book, going to the movies among others.
2. Set Aside Date Night
It’s wrong to stop the fun activities you both normally do before the kids arrive because of their presence. Although it may not be regular, such activities help in keeping the romance alive after a baby. Having a date night is a perfect medium that helps you fall in love with your spouse again.
However, during this period you don’t have to worry about the kids simply taking them visiting a trusted friend or inviting someone over to stay with them.
3. Revisit Your Partner’s Love Languages
Every individual has their distinct love language that communicates effectively what love truly is to them. For some it’s gifts, others physical touches(hug, kisses) while others may be words of affirmation.
Love languages are diverse and vary from person to person. Perhaps, you’ve stopped speaking your partner’s love language as a result of the kid’s arrival, it’s about time you revisit it and begin to use them.
4. Romance Comes Alive When You Engage in Your Partner’s Hobbies
Hobbies are activities one finds interesting and satisfying. As couples, you can leverage this medium to show how much you love, care and value your partner. It’s always romantic when you and your spouse play his/her favourite sports or games.
5. Arrange a Surprise Package For Your Partner
Sincerely, everyone loves surprise packages that are beautiful, most especially when coming from the one they promised to spend the rest of their lives with. It must not be an expensive package, remember it’s the heart that gives that counts the most.
A perfect guide for this is to familiarize yourself with your spouse’s likes and dislikes.
6. Talk About Everything Everyday
Irrespective of how busy your everyday schedule may be, create time to talk with your spouse within that schedule, that’s why you must learn how to balance work and family.
After a day, learn to ask your spouse how they spent their day and see where you may be of help. Love is built upon the foundation of effective communication and listening.
7. Hang Out With Other Couples
Don’t be cut in the web of boredom with your partner doing nothing. Hanging out with other couples gives you ideas and strategies to apply in keeping the romance alive after a baby.
Interestingly, these other couples can relate to what exactly you might be experiencing in your romantic life. Hence, feel free to share with them your struggles.
8. Visit Places With Your Partner
Nothing is as loving as travelling to fun places having the one you dearly love right next to you. It’s soul refreshing! Therefore, select a suitable location together with your partner or you could make it as a surprise package for your partner.
While doing this, ensure you keep away every form of distraction—switch off your phone, lock up every form of official duty and keep the kids away.
9. Utilize the Social Media Platform to Profess Your Love
To revive your romance life, spice it up by showing the world how much your partner means to you on your social media handles. Husbands, it’s about time you stop advertising just your businesses on your handles, learn to include your wife’s pictures telling how much you cherish her.
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Similarly, wives, stop posting just you and your kids on your handles and spice it up with your husband’s photos. In addition, engage more in sending romantic text messages, emails, and letters.
10. Learn to Appreciate Your Spouse
Everyone loves to feel valued and celebrated. Therefore, employ these same tactics in keeping the romance alive after a baby in your marriage. Never let a day go by without complimenting your partner’s outlook.
Most importantly, when they put on something new or achieve something great. Be proud to identify with them publicly and privately as their spouse.
11. Physical Touches Communicates Affection
What’s holding you back from hugging, or kissing your spouse? All these little physical touches reunite you with your partner the more you engage in it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with hugging your spouse while in the presence of others including your kids.
12. Take Care of Your Physical Looks
The arrival of kids should not be an excuse for you to abandon your physical looks, appearing shabby and unkept—most especially the mothers. Looking untidy diminishes the romance in your marriage. However, maintaining an attractive outlook makes your partner enjoy spending the rest of their life with you all over again.
13. Learn Something New Together
Keeping the romance alive after a baby is made possible when you and your spouse learn something new together, it could be a skill or a game. Doing this encourages teamwork, unity, and Harmony which is reflected in other aspects of your lives.
14. Spice up Your Bedroom Life
As a couple ensure your bedroom is looking all beautiful, neatly arranged, and decorated with all sorts of flowers, cards, lights that show love in the air.
Having such an atmosphere in your bedroom sets the mood for other intimate activities—don’t hesitate to try it out.
Conclusion
Restoring your romantic life after having a baby is not all about sex, although it’s important. However, trying the above-listed things can spark up your romance life again. Bear in mind that you must not do big, expensive stuff to prove your love—little things count.
Therefore, what’s your best way of restoring diminishing romance after the arrival of kids?
