A Leap of Faith

Updated: May 31, 2022
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I scrolled through Facebook reading posts to keep myself away from boredom, reacting to funny posts and commenting on some.

“I will take a leap of faith and settle down!” These were the exact words written on the post. The man who made that statement had found his missing rib only for their genotypes to be the forbidden match AS and AS. It seems they were not ready to let go of each other due to emotional attachment.

I was bemused by the post, so people can be this heartless. Did they know the pain their child was going to go through? They would have to pause their entire life for one child. May it not happen but imagine that they had two or three kids born with Sickle Cell Anaemia.

I sat in my chair and shook my head. If I was a sickler and I grew up to learn that my parents had gone ahead with their marriage after knowing what the result would be, I would never forgive them.

I have been here for the past one week with my son. My coworker had called me to let me know that our boss was considering putting me off work for absenteeism. It was just that he knew people would blame his lack of empathy for a woman with a sickler.

Do you think that love would continue to grow when you see your child in pain and know that your selfishness is the cause of it? Guilt will eat up that love. One partner might start to get tired and the other would feel the burden and a family crisis might follow.

My case is a bit different, we had done multiple tests before I and my husband tied the knot which had confirmed that my genotype was AS and my husband AA. That was relatively safe until our fourth child had fallen ill. The tests were taken again and behold there was a medical mistake.

A mistake I’m paying for sitting in this chair. I went through comments on the post with some people saying that they should carry on for “love conquers all!” others thought that the sickler gene was an illusion or a demon and that God could heal people from it. Bravo! My fellow compatriots. Your ignorance is fueled by pride and blinded belief.

To those who want to be shocked and refuse to know their genotype before getting married. Kudos! May your lucky charm pay your bills and help you sustain your family if you end up in my shoes.

Know your genotype before jumping head first because of love. Try to make it one of the first things you know about your partner. May your children not fall victims to your arrogance or negligence.

I hope to hear of fewer and fewer cases of Sickle Cell Anaemia in the future.

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